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Life Coaching & Soulwork Therapy
© Jan Sikorski

Online Life Coaching, Training & Mentorship

Are you entangled in relationship problems and negative emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama or your partner's demands?
Do you want to untangle your life?

Soulwork Training

Are you interested in learning how people change? We coach people to choose fulfilling lives and change whatever holds them back. Do you want to coach people to enjoy success? Our coaching and coach training can help you:

  1. Rebuild your motivation by dissolving trauma
  2. Resolve family problems quickly and efficiently
  3. Use quality couple, partnership and team skills
  4. End self-criticism & inner conflict to recover integrity
  5. Define goals, manage objections and plan for success
  6. End your toxic habits and create mature relationships
  7. Evaluate relationship systems & clarify entanglements
  8. Dissolve mentor damage and find inspirational mentorship
  9. Recover and develop missing qualities, expertise and skills
  10. Develop yourself as a leader and work cooperatively in teams

We promise the best of our experience, time and attention!

What do you want?

Do you want success? Of course! Money? Goes without saying. Recognition? That would be nice. Good relationships? Certainly. Great partnership? Who doesn't? Happy children? Obviously!

Many people have similar abstract goals, and do not define them. Never. If you know exactly what you want, you are part of a minority. If you know exactly what you want and you have an effective plan for achieving your goals, you are rare. If you are not only motivated but inspired to fulfill your goals, and you are taking action now ... you could become a great systemic coach ...

Most people have vague ideas of what they want and often know better what they don't want. Most people have conflicts and objections about getting what they want. People who don't know their life goals often muddle around, limited by other people's expectations, fear and guilt. You can coach them.


Most men lead lives of quiet desperation

And many people who know what they want and how they can get it, stop anyway, sabotaging themselves with vague beliefs, missing motivation and unpleasant feelings.

Life Coaching and Meaning . Soul Mentorship

Systemic Life Coach Training

I took your training to sort out some issues, and to find what I really wanted. You helped put my goals into a "big picture" of my life ... I learned how to take action. Now I have great mentors ... I am effective and I am well paid for helping other people! Devon, England

You can learn how to coach people during interactive, dynamic team work. It is an effective way for you achieve your goals - by helping people achieve their dreams. Our work can focus you on your life situation and your vision for your future, using your past experience to help others.

We help people achieve their potential to gain focus, perspective and clarity on what is important to you - and what is important for others. Our coaching helps you meet challenges with purpose and direction.

You probably know the importance of your personal development. You know that having an ‘edge’ is important, and that as a good life coach you can give others that edge. Our life coaching helps you improve your life, in the ways you want.

Systemic Life Coach Training

Our advanced coach training offers you much more than motivational rah-rah, catchy quotes and hypnotic language. We ensure you gain valuable insights into how you can help people improve their lives, so that you can offer personalized coaching in a range of specialties. You learn how to help people find their life purpose, define their goals, make effective plans and change limiting beliefs.

Many life coaches lack life experience. It's a sad fact that many coaches are young single adults, perhaps with a university degree and a correspondence course. Compare what our coaching and training offers you. Check some of our articles on the left side of this page. Our coach training encompasses all of life, from conception to death.

Life Coaching includes Relationship Coaching

Success, happiness and love are relationship issues! The consequences of ignoring systemic rules often include broken intimacy and strong negative emotions. Positive thinking has hidden dangers!

Some quotes from coaching sessions:

  • As my success grew, I lost my best friends
  • I made a fortune but alienated my own children
  • My hard work and dedication lead directly to divorce
  • The more I developed, the less I appreciated my partner

Relationships often have unconscious, systemic rules about who can be happy, and for how long, and about who must suffer, and in what way. Our training includes relationship diagnosis and solutions for many relationship problems. Effective success coaching reflects effective relationship coaching.

Mother - Son Entanglements . Father - Daughter Entanglements

Success Coaching includes Emotional Coaching

Many people who want success said that they either fear failure or fear success. Although life coaching is goal oriented and future positive, few coaches seem to check the relationship consequences of success.

Example: You want to get rid of Fear

  • You fear increased responsibility
  • You fear your own incompetence
  • You fear being seen as incompetent
  • You fear an inflow of too much money
  • You fear the unknown
  • You fear losing your friends
  • You fear alienating your family
  • You fear losing your possessions

Existential or chronic fear often indicates deep entanglements with other people. Other potential consequences of success, and reasons to sabotage success, might be anger, sadness or guilt. For example, some signs of guilt are:

  • You create relationship problems
  • You alienate people who support you
  • You are depressed and you don't know why
  • You avoid balancing or keeping track of finances
  • You avoid work ... but you don't enjoy being lazy
  • You know what you have to do, yet you procrastinate
  • You ignore important problems ... and worry about them

Expect to feel guilt if you have hurt people, or if your success has somehow hurt people in your family (especially children, partner or parents). Contact us for lasting solutions for guilt, other negative emotions and relationship problems that delay success.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email