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Love: Resolve Conflicts and Find Happiness
Living Love © Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling and Coach Training

We offer personal and online coaching and training for emotional and relationship problems, family constellations and conflict management.

Increase Happiness with Love Coaching

Are you sometimes amazed at how few people explore the depths of human love? Are you sometimes shocked at how many people never explore how appropriate love brings lasting happiness? Yet inappropriate love can bring endless suffering.

LOVE is when the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

The thousands of forms of joy in the world are mostly the joy the joy of sharing love. Hopefully, this joy will never leave you. Even in the hardest moments of your life, you can share a lighthearted attitude that comforts others.

You want to love and be loved. That's part of happiness.
But love and be loved by whom? Your love needs an address ...

Do you want good relationships? Probably you have some basic requirements. You might include compatibility, acceptance, respect, encouragement, commitment, stability, recognition, co-operation and shared goals.

We offer you insights into your emotions and your relationships. These insights may increase your curiosity, as well as your knowledge. If you may want to learn more, consider learning our systemic coaching. You can share your life skills and expertise with other people.

Do you want to share more love? Improve your love life with love coaching.
We can help you manage you emotions and share your love.

Your Relationship Needs

Your relationships provide ways in which you can satisfy your human needs - physical, emotional and spiritual. Although you may not be aware of all of your relationship needs, psychologist Abraham Maslow summarized a hierarchy of needs that may offer you insight into your relationships.

Love is Sharing
Physiological Sharing food, warmth, place to sleep, etc
Safety Sharing the security of a home
Belonging Sharing membership with special groups of people
Esteem Sharing values, recognizing and valuing each other
Actualization Sharing knowledge, skills and steps to fulfillment.

If you can share with other people, you have a profound basis for wonderful relationships. If you cannot share, you would probably benefit from love coaching. People who cannot share will likely have problems in every relationship. People who cannot share often become dependent or codependent.

Dependent Relationships . Codependent Relationships

Relationship Types

Probably, your relationships give meaning to your life. We use a hierarchy of relationship development that supports love. The relationships that most affect your meaning of life may be:

Love is Connecting

Early Family You feel connected to members of your family in which you learn basic life skills and follow family rules
Friendship You feel connected to people with whom you share experiences, feelings, personal details and advice
Teamwork You feel connected to people with whom you work together towards shared goals with commitment and co-operation
Partnership You feel connected to a person to experience love and intimacy, and prepare for nurturing children or important projects
Parenthood You feel connected to your own children, child substitutes (e.g. pets) or important long term projects that you create and nurture
Community You feel connected to members of your communities, whether geographical, political, professional or through shared interests
Humanity You feel connected to all people, accepting their country of origin, and diverse cultural backgrounds, values and beliefs

Relationship Goals

Your relationship goals add meaning to your life. The relationship goals that may most affect your life may be:

Which goals are PRIMARY for you?
Survival Is your primary goal to survive longer?
Family Is your primary goal for your family to survive longer?
Power Is your primary goal power - you exist for your gratification?
Stability Is your primary goal stability - you want to regulate society?
Success Is your primary goal success - you want to increase your material worth?
Community Is your primary goal community - to share experiences, feelings and wisdom?
Systemic Is your primary goal to participate in and change human systems
Global Is your primary goal to value and protect all living things

Relationship Skills

Are you using appropriate relationship skills? Do you treat your partner as a parent, or a child? Do you relate to your colleagues as if they were family, or to your children as if they were employees? If so, you are nurturing relationships that will likely end in suffering.

Do you want to manage your emotions and solve relationship problems?

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email