Your relationship skills, your coaching and
mentoring, can last longer than your words or success. You can be
remembered for your integrity, trust, and honest communication throughout your
I wrote this little poem in Warsaw, Poland when I was still piecing together what I would
later call Soulwork systemic coaching. Kumulipo is a Hawaiian word with
One translation is teacher of the night.
From the Source of All
From potential to dynamic
LIGHT creates duality
Between the first created
Between equals for opposites
LOVE creates trinity
Three in one and one in three
Direction guides unfolding love
INTENTION creates multiplicity
Nature - the one in many
Evolution explores potential
PURPOSE creates life
Between earthly childhood
And cosmic adolescence ...
SOUL creates Mentors
© Martyn Carruthers, 2002
of words may be used to justify freedom or bondage. You can use the same words to
build prison walls or bridges to lasting happiness. Today's truth quickly becomes
tomorrow's foolishness and my words are forever subject to your interpretation.
I will choose words carefully, with the hope that you will choose meanings that
If you have been damaged by mentors, or by inappropriate or toxic mentorship,
you are unlikely to benefit from future mentorship until you manage or heal your damage. We can help you.
You can choose to embody integrity. You can open your awareness; manage
your blocks and fulfill your life. You can build a bridge across the void.
You can remember who you are, and wake up. You can embody Soul and assist
the paths of others. The paths are many, the goal is One.
You cannot give, nor take, integrity as a gift, nor force it as a
command. Yet each person choosing integrity can find it, and can mentor
others. Here are some qualities of Soul Mentorship,
and tips on how we have helped people develop these qualities.
You, Your Cosmos and Integrity
You live in an infinite universe without center nor edge.
You live in an infinite experience of life, before thoughts, without center
nor edge. "Levels" or "depth" of life experience are
useful illusions that may reflect your progress in mastering life challenges.
An ultimate challenge is to live with integrity.
Most people experience moments of integrity. Maintaining or
stabilizing integrity is challenging - unresolved issues will return most people
in duality. Living with integrity may be life's highest challenge. Mentoring motivated people to live with
integrity, while continuing to develop ourselves, is one fulfillment of happiness.
You may fixate on your own path and insist that there is no
other, or you may recognize that the paths to Soul are infinite. Integrity is
forever available to those people who choose it.
As you experience integrity, you step into a source of wordless
wisdom. Soul is beyond words, or better stated, before them. Soul can be described in
abstract paradoxes: scared/sacred; as an ever-new primordial state; forever stable and
forever changing; the purpose of life and the life of purpose.
Soulwork can help you live with integrity. When you live in
integrity, neither accepting nor rejecting, you can ruthlessly love your actions
- and your consequences. You can assess whether your
actions express your love appropriately.
You can appreciate all actions as expressions of love,
regardless of consequence. You can ruthlessly love the people around you
- and the games that you and they may play. If you judge the actions of
others, you may fall into duality.
If you stabilize Soul experience, you become a Soulworker.
You can truly Soul Work. You can mentor people to live with integrity and coach
people to heal their own lives ... and help heal the lives of others.
As a Soulworker, you can transcend training and philosophy. You can find
refuge in integrity. Beyond confused or selfish feelings, you can waken to
experience a world - your world - your life, your world, your home.
When you merge with Soul, you can transcend sympathy and find
compassion. You may see love in all people - and all actions. You can perceive
that all human beings want to love and be loved and that they are desperately
trying to realize their love. You may perceive that they can merge with Soul
themselves, and in merging, you are never alone.
You can mentor those people who suffer in darkness. From an
infinite number of paths, you can mentor those people who long to fulfill life on
their own paths. You can bridge heaven and earth - integrating your highest
ideals into the darkest parts of your human reality.
You can mentor with patience and gentleness, or with
arrogance and dogma. You are free to choose, and each person is free to
respond to you. As you mentor others, you may be interested in their health
and welfare, or uncaring. A harvest of mentoring
is that you learn how to become a better mentor.
A dark side of mentorship is mentor damage. Incompetent
mentors may use their authority to treat compliant adults as children, or
they may use people as a testing ground for their ideas. Some people need
to influence others - perhaps trying to find meaning in otherwise meaningless lives.
Following mentor damage, people become less able to discern
who is good for them - and who not - and may avoid any form of mentorship.
Mentoring involves mutual influence - each protégé teaches
a mentor how to become a better mentor. Mentors need feedback to develop
Quality mentorship helps people
transcend selfishness. People can learn humility and patience by making
decisions, accepting feedback, sometimes suffering, and learning, as we did,
about life. Wise mentors help people develop in their own time, and
offer support and encouragement.
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Soul of Soulwork
Soulwork is accessible, simple and profound. Beyond concepts and doubts,
you can explore integrity and offer help to other seekers. Our world needs
people with discipline and strength, people who
live their "sense of life".
We seek people who want to develop and mentor
others. We seek people to walk
beside us, whatever their religion or philosophy. We seek ways to express
love - and a powerful way to express love is to accept love!
As you merge with Soul, you merge with those who have merged before. You can
access their wisdom and find endless visions - including visions beyond humanity.
You can complete your childhood and prepare for maturity. Graduate and take
your place in the world. See Soul of Soulwork
Today's enlightened descriptions may be tomorrow's foolishness, and
today's crazy ideas may be tomorrow's Rainbow Bridge. Yet, beyond philosophy and dogma, you
can manifest your integrity by helping heal this troubled planet.
Our coaching develops skills while our mentoring develops wisdom.
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