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Systemic Solutions for Obsessions & Compulsions

Systemic Solutions with Martyn Carruthers

We present interactive demonstration-rich workshops on systemic coaching, obsessions, resolving family chaos and relationship bonds. Email us if you would like a workshop in your area.

Are you Obsessive - Compulsive?

Do you wash your hands repeatedly, count objects again and again or check things many times? Do you repeatedly follow private rituals, such as touching a number of items in a certain sequence? If you cannot prevent yourself doing this, you may have symptoms called obsessive compulsive disorder.

You may count the number of times a dog barks, or passing cars. You may endlessly sing a song in your mind, or you cannot stop playing video games or seeking internet pornography. You are a prisoner in your own mind, endlessly counting the bars of your cage.

The symptoms associated with OCD are obsessions (thoughts that keep returning) or compulsions (habits such as compulsive washing or compulsive eating which interfere with your life.

OCD may be a reason why chain letters, spam and computer viruses spread. Regardless of the stupidity of the messages - if you have OCD you may have to read them and follow the instructions ... just in case. Many marketing and salespeople take advantage of people with compulsions.

OCD may be combined with or complicated by other symptoms - such as symptoms associated with trauma, schizophrenia, depression, sexual abuse and bipolar disorder. If OCD affects you - or someone close to you - get help - before your condition worsens.

Reactions to OCD Symptoms

You may feel embarrassed about your obsessive thoughts - perhaps they don't make sense or seem "crazy", even to you. You may try to hide your compulsive habits, because you know they look strange. You may feel alone and afraid - but you cannot seem to stop.

Obsessions and compulsions are similar to non-chemical addictions, such as gambling or sexual addictions, and to some symptoms of PTSD, and may have a similar cause. If you have this type of addictions, or if you are trying to deal with trauma, you may be trying to escape from or to avoid feeling unpleasant or difficult emotions.

If you have OCD symptoms, you may feel irritable, angry and withdrawn. If you were a child with OCD, you may have been accused of temper tantrums, stubbornness or other problems. If you were a teenager with OCD, you may have been accused of fighting your parents or avoiding school.

  You may be a prisoner in your own mind, endlessly counting the bars of your cage.

Children with OCD

OCD symptoms use up much of a child's time and energy, with less time for homework or household chores. They may feel they must do their rituals exactly right, to avoid bad feelings. They may feel stressed tbefore they can go to school or to bed. They may not sleep well, and be exhausted.

Children with OCD may often feel physically sick and have stress-related symptoms such as headaches or upset stomachs. They may worry about bacteria and toxins, and about being seen as "crazy". These worries may change as the child matures.

Children with OCD rarely get the emotional support that they need, not because their parents are uncaring, but because their parents are as confused and bewildered as they are. The child's confusion may be seen as frustration and anger.

Children with OCD may show extreme anger to parents who do not comply with their demands. A child with a cleanliness obsession may demand to shower for hours. Teenagers who are depressed or using drugs have a higher risk of developing OCD than other teenagers.

Drugs & OCD

Some therapists recommend a mixture of behavioral therapy and medication. Although antidepressants may not affect OCD symptoms, the following drugs are considered to be effective: clomipramine (Anafranil), fluvoxamine (Luvox), fluoxetine (Prozac), citalopram (Celexa), sertraline (Zoloft) and paroxetine (Paxil).

These drugs affects blood serotonin - a neurotransmitter that nerve cells use to communicate. Serotonin receptors are spread throughout the brain; so its uptake and release can affect a huge part of life. See Side Effects of Common Drugs.

Systemic Coaching & OCD

Systemic coaching helps people recognize and change relationship entanglements and trauma associated with unpleasant emotions or difficult behaviors. This helps people control emotions and compulsive behaviors that those emotions motivated.

I used to compulsively make and remake my bed, endlessly rearrange our children's toys, and do many other things that seem ridiculous now. I asked you for Soulwork, although I had been with a therapist for three years. When you said four to six sessions, I thought that you were crazy. But in the second session, I found a frightened child inside me ... you helped me love her. And in the third session we dissolved a situation from when I was six and got lost in a zoo. OCD? What OCD?

Many obsessions appear to be attempts to continue toxic family traditions within a family system. Obsessions and compulsions are often examples of identity loss - in which a person has:

  • lost access to "parts" of self (associated with trauma)
  • lost access to most of identity (associated with child abuse)
  • identified with another person
  • identified with two family members who were in conflict

Systemic coaching provides prompt and effective remedies for identity loss. Motivated people are coached to find a stable sense of integrity. Then toxic relationship bonds and emotional trauma can be resolved, and mentors or role models found who inspire development, happiness and success.

Competent Coaching

Well-educated may not mean competent. Although exposure and response prevention are commonly used to treat OCD, a Soulwork systemic coach can offer you more choices:

  • Help you dissolve conflicts
  • Dissolve partnership and sexual issues
  • Replace relationship bonds
  • Dissolve the consequences of trauma and PTSD
  • Find appropriate role models and mentors

Consequences of Coaching and Therapy . Sexual Solutions

NOTE: Consult your physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations about OCD, medical symptoms or medical conditions.

Can you imagine having effective coaching, training or mentorship? Can you imagine learning how to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve emotional and relationship challenges.


 

 
 

 

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1. Where are you now in your life? Assess fixations, bonds and enmeshments Systems 1
2. What do you want?  Define life goals ... and blocks to success Systems 2
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4. Do your emotions limit you?  Dissolve abuse, trauma and mentor damage Systems 4
5. Do your beliefs block you? Change limiting beliefs to end dependence Systems 5
6. Does inner emptiness limit you? Resolve identity loss to recover qualities and skills Systems 6
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to help people dissolve emotional blocks, improve relationships and achieve goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... ask for permission to post, publish or teach this work.