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Solutions for Compulsive Eating, Overweight & Obesity
Weight & Relationships Martyn Carruthers

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You are unlikely to cure compulsive eating by willpower alone.
You are not alone. We can help you.

Are you Overweight?

Many people attempt to cope with unpleasant feelings and difficult relationships by eating, and may be diagnosed as overweight, obese or as having an eating disorder. Eating disorders can be deadly - some are associated with a 10-15% mortality rate and a 20-25% suicide rate.

Your eating habits reflect your lifestyle and relationships. Unhealthy eating habits probably reflect unpleasant feelings and emotions. Do you want to be attractive, confident and healthy? We offer solutions for emotional problems and relationship problems that so often underlie eating disorders.

Do you react to relationship stress or boredom by overeating? Compulsive eating is a serious eating disorder that may be related to guilt, depression, codependence, identity loss or relationship bonds etc. Body weight often communicates what people do not or cannot communicate in other ways.

Compulsive Eating

In Western cultures, to be fat can imply greed, laziness and unhealthiness, and many overweight people feel like social outcasts. Compulsive eating may be shown by:

  • You cannot stop eating
  • You avoid exercise and activity
  • You know that you are overweight
  • Diabetes or pre-diabetic syndrome
  • Fear of being too thin
  • Endless self-criticism
  • Endless internal conflict
  • Poor intimate relationships

Solutions for Compulsive Overeating

  • Hospital, if your physical condition is very poor
  • Nutritional counseling can help you design healthy meals
  • Individual coaching can help you find healthy ways to manage your life
  • Systems coaching can help you manage your relationships and emotions
  • Psychiatric medication may help you control clinical depression or anxiety

Addictions . Codependence . Depression . Learning Disorders

Individual and Couple Coaching

We can help you to shift the balance of your life. We can help you set your agenda, choose your goals, and provide the material for the changes that you want. We can help you ...

  • end inner conflict
  • improve your relationships
  • end relationship problems
  • choose and clarify your life goals
  • recover and align with your sense of life
  • change relationship bonds, abuse and trauma
  • repair toxic mentorship (therapy damage) and find inspiration

Private Sessions . Couple Coaching . Weight Loss

Weight issues seem to reflect both medical and psychosocial issues. Some medical factors involved in obesity include:

  1. food sensitivities and allergies
  2. lack of exercise, little physical activity
  3. sluggish metabolism  (low metabolic rate)
  4. too much refined and processed food (fast food obesity)
  5. chemical toxins (food additives, hormones, fertilizers etc)
  6. nutritional deficiencies (insufficient vitamins and minerals etc)
  7. medications (antidepressants, blood pressure drugs, steroids etc)
  8. insulin or other hormonal unbalances, such as in diabetes, hypothyroidism

After my father killed himself, I couldn't stop eating ... I missed him ... I felt like part of me was dead too ... and I felt so guilty. You helped me set him free ... and me free - I can live my own life again. Toronto

Emotional Factors are Relationship Issues

Emotional and relationship factors involved in overweight and obesity include:

  1. I want to not feel empty

  2. I want to punish myself

  3. I want to repel certain people

  4. I want to not feel certain emotions
  5. I want to feel loved (like I did as a child)

  6. The taste / texture / full-feeling makes me feel good

Contact us to manage negative emotions and solve relationship
problems that lead to weight problems and obesity.

Solutions for Compulsive Eating

You may eat to try to control depression, anxiety, relationship stressors, boredom, prolonged dieting and dissatisfaction with your body. Appropriate solutions require that you recognize the causes:

Compulsive eating may temporarily relieve unpleasant feelings, but relief may be followed by feeling guilt, shame or depression. You may feel in constant conflict and unhappy. You try new diets hoping that food can cure an emotional compulsion. You may lose some weight temporarily, but you will probably regain your lost weight - and maybe more. See weight loss.

Do you eat normally with others and overeat in private later? Do you overeat late at night or in fast food restaurants? Have you hidden secret supplies of junk food or candy around your home or office?

I was always hungry. I just couldn't stop eating. I failed every diet. Eating was the only way I could stop feeling empty - since my divorce I became very overweight. Your coaching helped me find myself - now I look good again! Croatia

Medical complications from compulsive eating include diabetes, hypertension and heart problems. Some people try extreme remedies for this conflict by having their jaws wired to prevent eating or parts of their intestines removed to prevent digestion. There are easier ways ...

Consult a physician about opinions about eating disorders
and other medical conditions.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email