Online help for pain control by resolving emotional
and relationship issues.
Can you at least consider that pain and
suffering may contain useful information?
If not, this article may only irritate you.
Pain is Important!
Some unfortunate people cannot experience pain. In the past, the horrible
symptoms of leprosy were mostly due to anesthesia - the inability
to feel pain. Some people cannot stop experiencing pain.
Symptoms of RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy) include
abnormal, long-term pain, usually following trauma.
Some people avoid situations which might cause pain, and some
people deal with pain by dissociating. But people who cannot
experience pain have a disadvantage. Pain warns of potential damage
and a need to change something. Pain provides important information.
Pain & Suffering
If most pain is a response to a physical
stimulus, then suffering is a response to loss.
Pain usually indicates damaged tissues while suffering usually indicates
damaged relationships - for example - abandonment, abuse or betrayal.
When you are in pain, do you believe that you
deserve to suffer? Some people avoid visiting a dentist until a pain threshold is reached;
and people who have hurt or betrayed others may suffer until they resolve
Pain can motivate us to withdraw from painful
stimuli and to immobilize damaged body parts. Although pain
is primarily associated with tissue damage, sometimes a painful
location is not damaged (e.g. sciatica).
Pain is difficult to measure and may be affected by
stress, fear and anxiety. Differences in pain response may be due to social, cultural, psychological and genetic factors.
Pain often follows stress and may be less severe if people better control
stress and their reactions to stress.
Some people feel
physical pain, while other people with the same stimulus feel comfortable.
Pain responses seem to be mostly learned in childhood. Children who learn to suppress and hide
their difficult feelings such sadness, fear and anger - may also learn
to hide pain, for example when parents punish them for crying. Other children
express pain to gain attention or love.
Acute & Chronic Pain
Acute pain includes immediate, usually short-term, intense body
responses, often connected with depressed feelings, followed by a dull,
Chronic pain refers to intense long-term sensations (over a few
Chronic pain is often associated with cancer, multiple
arthritis and is more difficult to locate and treat. Chronic pain can
lead to complications such as hypochondria, depression, sleep disturbances, loss of
appetite and feeling helpless.
Pain Control Medications
Pain can be controlled using chemicals that interfere with
the transmission, reception or interpretation of painful signals.
The most powerful pain control medications are opiates (e.g.
morphine and heroin) and the most commonly used are salicylates
(e.g. aspirin and acetaminophen). Other medications often used during
pain control include antidepressants and tranquilizers.
Some herbal remedies contain medications similar to medical drugs, usually
obtained from natural sources rather than artificially made. Alcohol
is a traditional pain-medication in many cultures, often used in conjunction
with herbs or nicotine (tobacco) - a powerful alkaloid that helps people
Placebo (inert substances that look like drugs) are often
more effective in pain control than any drug, as repeatedly
shown in clinical double-blind trials...
Systemic Pain Control
We offer a multidisciplinary approach to
pain. You can create a "resourceful space" to
find freedom from pain, and to make decisions which may solve the
problems that cause pain. You can be proactive rather than reactive
in your pain control.
A drug is a substance that, when injected
into a rat,
produces a scientific paper. Edgerton Y Davis, Jr
You can learn to decrease your reliance on drugs by learning
to control pain. (These skills are also valuable in crisis and
If you cannot alleviate your pain, distress,
depression or anxiety may worsen your condition.
Our pain control coaching is often most appropriate for:
- People with chronic or recurring pain
- People who wish to avoid medications
- People with prolonged postoperative pain
- People who have little pain relief from medication
- People with a history of adverse reactions to medication
If you lack meaningful relationships, any increased attention,
sympathy or support that you receive as a result of your pain may motivate
you to prolong or exaggerate your pain. See Depression,
Side Effects of Medication
Please consult your physician regarding the
applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to pain,
medical symptoms or medical conditions.
Long Term Pain Relief
Pain provides a message that something is wrong. If you receive
a painful message and act upon it, further pain may be unnecessary.
We can help you explore what is happening before using pain control
techniques. Our work supplements medical treatment; but
cannot replace it.
We may encourage initial "short-term" pain relief to
create a resourceful space for you to follow the steps needed
for longer-term relief. Our short term pain control may involve
massage, acupuncture and/or hypnosis. (
Summary of short-term pain relief )
- The first goal is often deal with current crisis.
First manage the shock of an accident, a medical test, an emergency,
or a relationship crisis.
- How does your pain makes sense? Explore the causes and benefits
of your pain, and ways to preserve any benefits while relieving the symptoms.
- Resolve any relationship problems, especially relationships in
which you suffer, or feel anxiety or guilt.
- Resolve any conflicts about pain and its relief, while
becoming specific about what you want instead of pain - and for what purpose.
- Resolve relationship bonds that require pain. This is
particularly important if you have a family history of relatives who
suffered chronic or recurring pain.
- Manage negative emotions. Anger, fear and sadness inhibit concentration and
relaxation, and may increase pain. Some common issues are: anger about some person or event, sadness
about lost opportunities and anxiety about death.
- Find appropriate mentors. Some of the better
mentors for pain control are people with similar, but worse, situations to
you, who have positive attitudes.
We request approval from a medical doctor before we
commence pain control coaching. We refer people wanting pain control who
have not had a recent medical examination to a physician.
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