Are you entangled in difficult
relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your
boss's moods? Soulwork Systemic Solutions can help you untangle
your life ... and you can help other people reclaim their freedom.
Symptoms of Paranoia
Following abuse, trauma, emotional stress or sleep
deprivation, some people may be diagnosed as having the unpleasant symptoms of paranoia.
Paranoid symptoms may also arise from denied
guilt and anger. Guilt is a normal result of hurting people. Anger is a normal result
of perceiving injustice.
Paranoid symptoms may also follow an accident, abandonment, betrayal or suddenly increased responsibility.
Paranoia includes rage and hatred. A person may mistrust
others, be easily offended, cannot forgive, strongly react to perceived criticism, be preoccupied
with conspiracy, fear being deceived, incessantly argue,
change moods abruptly and act in self-righteous and perfectionist ways.
Paranoid behavior often involves exaggerated feelings
self-importance or persecution.
A person with paranoia may function and relate in some contexts,
however their lives often seem generally isolated.
Systemic Coaching & Paranoia
Systemic solutions can help responsible people dissolve
paranoia, although we recommend that inexperienced coaches refer
people with symptoms of paranoia to experienced professionals.
Deliberately Induced Paranoia
Some people deliberately induce paranoia in others to gain compliance. This may be used as preparation for
induction into cults and cult-like groups such as paramilitary organizations, and as preparation for forced
interviews or interrogation. It often precedes warfare. See Abusive
Relationships
Many people describe a healthy paranoia
- referring to a suspicion of promotional offers that seem too good
to be true, and to a perception that trusting unknown people is naive or
stupid.
Paranoia & Manipulation
People most concerned about avoiding manipulation
are often the worst manipulators.
| |
> How do you know, Martyn, who you can trust
with your
> knowledge and when it could be dangerous? I think
> so much about manipulation and I don't want people
> to get better at it. Is it OK for a good
cause?
> I don't know yet. Can others use it to
manipulate me?
> I try to stay aware of all manipulation so
that I
> can make conscious choices every moment.
> I protect myself and watch people
carefully ...
> I try to make sure that no-one can hurt me. |
Solutions for Identity Loss
As paranoid behavior seems to be related to
aggression, anxiety and guilt, systemic
coaching can dissolve unpleasant consequences of abusive relationships
and emotional incest etc and integrates hurt
parts or fearful sub-personalities of people with symptoms of
paranoia. Such split-off parts or partial personalities are common results of
abuse and trauma called identity loss.
Some behaviors indicating identity loss are:
- Dissociated - person is not there,
preoccupied, withdrawn
- Aggressive -
person is irritable, mean, wants to fight
- Anxious - person is fearful, worried,
scared of ordinary things
- Depressed - person is melancholy,
purposeless
- Emotional swings
- person is endlessly conflicted, bipolar
- Guilt - person avoids happiness and
pleasure
- Psychosomatic - pains, dysfunction and
paralysis without medical cause
Victim Identification
Identity loss includes identifying with someone else. Systemic coaching recognizes three common
identifications - dead person identification (DPI), hero
identification (HI) and victim identification (VI).
If you identified with a victim, you will express anger
that the perceived victim did not express. You may be suspicious. You may evaluate each person you meet - if you
decide the other is a victim - you may try to help that person. If you decide that the
other is a victimizer, you may try to punish that person. You may dedicate your life to helping
victims and punishing victimizers.
If you believe that victims
are the real victimizers - you may express anger to people
that you consider to be manipulative victims! Identification with a victim, combined with childhood
abuse or abandonment, are often the systemic basis for symptoms that
are sometimes called paranoid schizophrenia.
Systemic disidentification
can resolve imbalances and perceived injustice. After disidentification, you become free to rebuild your identity, and
feel and express your own emotions.
Relationship Bonds
If you had to believe lies
about your relationships, you may continue to express
those lies as bonds to preserve those relationships.
Common bonds include "I am bad" and "The world
is a bad place".
If you believe that you are somehow bad, you will
behave in ways that support your belief. You will ignore or forget
evidence that could deny or negate your belief.
Relationship bonds are like collections of toxic
beliefs. They may be called schema by
psychologists, miasms by homeopaths and entities
by the esoterically inclined. In early Soulwork, we referred to relationship bonds
as Thoughtforms. Systemic bondwork can dissolve
relationship bonds.
NOTE: Consult a physician regarding the
applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to
paranoia, medical symptoms or medical conditions.
Soulwork provides coaching, training and mentorship.
We train professional coaches to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve emotional, educational and relationship challenges.
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