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Paranoia & Paranoid Behavior

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Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma? Do you suffer from your parents' drama, your partner's demands, your boss's moods? Soulwork Systemic Solutions can help you untangle your life ... and you can help other people reclaim their freedom.

Symptoms of Paranoia

Following abuse, trauma, emotional stress or sleep deprivation, some people may be diagnosed as having the unpleasant symptoms of paranoia.

Paranoid symptoms may also arise from denied guilt and anger. Guilt is a normal result of hurting people. Anger is a normal result of perceiving injustice. Paranoid symptoms may also follow an accident, abandonment, betrayal or suddenly increased responsibility.

Paranoia includes rage and hatred. A person may mistrust others, be easily offended, cannot forgive, strongly react to perceived criticism, be preoccupied with conspiracy, fear being deceived, incessantly argue, change moods abruptly and act in self-righteous and perfectionist ways.

Paranoid behavior often involves exaggerated feelings self-importance or persecution. A person with paranoia may function and relate in some contexts, however their lives often seem generally isolated.

Systemic Coaching & Paranoia

Systemic solutions can help responsible people dissolve paranoia, although we recommend that inexperienced coaches refer people with symptoms of paranoia to experienced professionals.

Deliberately Induced Paranoia

Some people deliberately induce paranoia in others to gain compliance. This may be used as preparation for induction into cults and cult-like groups such as paramilitary organizations, and as preparation for forced interviews or interrogation. It often precedes warfare. See Abusive Relationships

Many people describe a healthy paranoia - referring to a suspicion of promotional offers that seem too good to be true, and to a perception that trusting unknown people is naive or stupid.

Paranoia & Manipulation

People most concerned about avoiding manipulation are often the worst manipulators.

  > How do you know, Martyn, who you can trust with your
> knowledge and when it could be dangerous? I think
> so much about manipulation and I don't want people
> to get better at it.
Is it OK for a good cause?
> I don't know yet.
Can others use it to manipulate me?
>
I try to stay aware of all manipulation so that I
>
can make conscious choices every moment.
> I protect myself and watch people
carefully ...
> I try to make sure that no-one can hurt me.

Solutions for Identity Loss

As paranoid behavior seems to be related to aggression, anxiety and guilt, systemic coaching can dissolve unpleasant consequences of abusive relationships and emotional incest etc and integrates hurt parts or fearful sub-personalities of people with symptoms of paranoia. Such split-off parts or partial personalities are common results of abuse and trauma called identity loss.

Some behaviors indicating identity loss are:

  • Dissociated - person is not there, preoccupied, withdrawn
  • Aggressive - person is irritable, mean, wants to fight
  • Anxious - person is fearful, worried, scared of ordinary things
  • Depressed - person is melancholy, purposeless
  • Emotional swings - person is endlessly conflicted, bipolar
  • Guilt - person avoids happiness and pleasure
  • Psychosomatic - pains, dysfunction and paralysis without medical cause

Victim Identification

Identity loss includes identifying with someone else. Systemic coaching recognizes three common identifications - dead person identification (DPI), hero identification (HI) and victim identification (VI).

If you identified with a victim, you will express anger that the perceived victim did not express. You may be suspicious. You may evaluate each person you meet - if you decide the other is a victim - you may try to help that person. If you decide that the other is a victimizer, you may try to punish that person. You may dedicate your life to helping victims and punishing victimizers.

If you believe that victims are the real victimizers - you may express anger to people that you consider to be manipulative victims! Identification with a victim, combined with childhood abuse or abandonment, are often the systemic basis for symptoms that are sometimes called paranoid schizophrenia.

Systemic disidentification can resolve imbalances and perceived injustice. After disidentification, you become free to rebuild your identity, and feel and express your own emotions.

Relationship Bonds

If you had to believe lies about your relationships, you may continue to express those lies as bonds to preserve those relationships. Common bonds include "I am bad" and "The world is a bad place".

If you believe that you are somehow bad, you will behave in ways that support your belief. You will ignore or forget evidence that could deny or negate your belief.

Relationship bonds are like collections of toxic beliefs. They may be called schema by psychologists, miasms by homeopaths and entities by the esoterically inclined. In early Soulwork, we referred to relationship bonds as Thoughtforms. Systemic bondwork can dissolve relationship bonds.

NOTE: Consult a physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to paranoia, medical symptoms or medical conditions.

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