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We present interactive
demonstration-rich workshops on systemic coaching, relationship
happiness, resolving family chaos and relationship bonds. Email us if
you would like a workshop in your area.
What is Partnership?
We describe a
partnership as "a committed relationship between two
adults to achieve mutually important goals". Partnership goals
require commitment, and partnership goals cannot be achieved by one person working alone.
Committed implies that both people are actively engaged in fulfilling the
projects which form the purpose of partnership.
What is Couple Coaching?
Couple coaching can help you solve partnership
problems. Both partners contribute to relationship problems,
and both can learn to solve and prevent relationship problems. The
partners may be shown how to dissolve communication blocks, describe
their mutual goals and accept responsibilities.
Any person wishing to improve his or her relationships
can get help with behavioral problems, relationship issues, or with
emotional problems. Premarital coaching helps people ensure that they
are compatible. Post-marital coaching helps separating couples part or
divorce peacefully.
As unresolved issues from past partnerships show up in
subsequent partnerships, Soulwork couple coaching helps people
resolve emotional bonds with their past
partners. (Sometimes a past partner may be a parent -
Father - Daughter Bonds and
Mother - Son Bonds codependence are common.)
What Happens when it's Over?
Following an intimate heterosexual partnership, the
woman usually re-orients to another partner faster than the man, while the man
(even if he initiated the breakup) may cling to the woman. The man
may continue to feel or express love to the woman, and experience
crisis if and when she commences a new intimate relationship.
If you are emotionally entangled with a past-partner, you
may cling to what your partner represented.
Entanglement seems inevitable if your past partner represented a success,
or someone from your history - perhaps a
parent, a sibling or a previous past-partner.
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My wife was the world to
me. When we broke up, I
felt that she had stolen my life. She was my best friend
and my lover - and she was my mother, my daughter and my
mistress ... since Soulwork I know I can love a different
woman - differently. PM Cardiff, Wales |
What are Partnership Goals?
The fulfillment of partnership goals requires relationship
skills - especially friendship skills, team skills.
And partnership skills are required for successful
parenthood and project management.
Partnership &
Couple Coaching
What is a Partner?
When participating in a partnership, you are likely
sensitive to the other person's behavior. You are likely to notice if the
other person keeps his or her promises, supports mutual decisions and brings
resources into the relationship. You will also notice if this person abuses,
betrays or abandons you.
Enjoy Partnership . Evaluate
Partnership . Predictable
Partnership
What is a Past Partner?
If you once partnered a person, then that person's actions and reactions
may continue to influence
your behavior long after separating. The behavior of a past partner may inspire you to find
another partner with similar or quite different qualities, or a past
partner may inspire you to avoid other partnerships.
Divorce . Children of
Divorce . Parental Alienation
Substitutes for Partners
Some people prefer a non-human substitute for a
partner to the reality of sharing a part of life with another human
being. Common non-human partner-substitutes include pets, plants,
automobiles, houses, televisions, computers and boats.
Another type of partner-substitute are people who are
not partners. A series of brief affair - partners, for example, may
diminish the need for committed adult companionship. Other common human
partner-substitutes are parents, siblings and friends.
When Parents partner Children
if a parent behaves in ways that can be mistaken for
partnership, a child may enjoy the special attention and expressions of
love. Later in life, however, a child may have difficulty finding or
marinating a relationship with anyone except a substitute for the
partner-parent. See
Emotional Incest.
Parent-bonded adults may sabotage their own attempts
at partnership. This
motivates two common behavior patterns, which can be called reclusive and promiscuous.
Past Partners
If an intimate partnership ends because of betrayal
and abandonment, then the betrayed partner is more likely to express
strong emotions see Affairs and may
act childishly.
If an intimate partnership ends because of abuse,
then the abusive or addicted partner is more likely
to express strong emotions and age-regress to some childhood trauma. See
Abusive Relationships
Emotions & Past Partners
Many people have emotional issues about past partners.
Some are objective - for example an ex-wife wants
more alimony or an ex-husband is stalking the woman. Yet the majority of
past-partner problems exist in the mind.
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I
felt that he was always around me ... everything reminded me of him. I would meet
male friends and
feel disgusted that they were not him. I tried sleeping with other
men - hell I tried everything - but I couldn't get him off my
mind. I thought I was going crazy. Soulwork helped me deal with it. JGY Leeds, UK |
Do your feelings about
a past-partner:
- cause you to feel guilty or depressed?
- prevent you enjoying another partnership?
- encompass you, or seem to surround you?
- make you sick with anger, worry or remorse?
Soulwork offers you quality relationship coaching for your problems with past-partners.
Do you want relationship coaching or systemic coach training? We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve emotional, educational and relationship challenges.
Soulwork Systemic Coaching for
Health Coaching,
Therapeutic
Coaching and
Relationship Management
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