Do you want to prevent many marriage problems?
Consider resolving any emotional issues and
before you get married!
Do you need Premarital Coaching?
Probably. Your love for each other, however heavenly it seems
now, will soon be grounded by relationship skills and life
experience. Our premarital and marriage counseling can
help you build a stronger foundation for your partnership.
Some key issues often include: leaving your parents, fully
ending previous relationships, establishing
roles and defining partnership goals.
Most young adults want happy partnership, yet they may not
understand how quickly sexual attraction and infatuation can fade.
They may not know how to develop shared values and adult companionship.
We see partnership as
teamwork, where two people create an intimate space in which
they can nourish yourselves, and provide a home for children and
important projects. If either of you lack friendship or teamwork skills,
then your partnership will likely suffer until you develop them.
An important question you need to answer is,
"How can I be SURE that (s)he is right for me?"
Women seem to have almost
unlimited capacity for forgiveness. (Since it is usually
men who need forgiveness, this must be a racial survival trait.)
. Predictable Partnership
. Space for Love
Our Couple & Marriage Coaching
Partners are not property - partners who
think otherwise will suffer. But few people learn from others'
experience - most people learn about partnership the hard way.
You can live and learn ... or you can forget about happiness.
Our couple and marriage coaching is effective. We find that six
hours is normal for premarital couples. Most couples use this time
to clarify partnership issues and to clean up their relationships
with their parents and any past-partners.
Each year, few couples decide that their beliefs, values and
goals are incompatible for long-term partnership - and choose
Our standard premarital couple counseling is for six hours.
We first focus on evaluating values and sharing expectations.
Our counseling includes increasing independence from parents,
finishing unfinished business with past partners and
dealing with unstable relatives or unsupportive friends. This
includes evaluating and combining individual and couple goals
- changing or ending previous
- what is acceptable in extramarital relationships?
- are social goals are similar or at least compatible?
- evaluating mutual friends and unacceptable friends
- change or end habits more appropriate for single people
- how much time for entertainment and shared recreation?
- partnership roles: individual and shared tasks and
- individual rights, (decisions, boundaries, when to
- in-laws (separation; contact; celebrations &
rituals; financial help)
- finances (support; budget; decisions; savings;
- religion (importance; involvement; disagreement;
- children (plans; limits; alternatives; child care;
Our couple counseling is not just discussing issues, rather we
provoke objections and doubts, and we help you define poorly
We can help you explore your objections,
abstract goals, conflicts, negative goals and inappropriate bonds
to parents or past-partners.
A few sessions of our individual coaching can manage many
entanglements, disappointments and guilt.
. Enjoying Partnership
Premarital Coaching 1
We can help you test your compatibility by comparing your
beliefs and values. We discuss many key issues such as where
to live, how many children and how you want to raise them.
If you have only met each other in romantic conditions, you
might make some mild stress tests. Can you discuss your
differences - your different opinions about religion, sex,
politics and money? Can you discuss how to furnish a home
together, or put up wallpaper together without a fight?
If you know your strengths and weaknesses as a couple, you can
build on your strengths and strengthen your weaknesses. Many
weaknesses are due to relationship problems ... unhealthy enmeshments
with parents or ex-partners, etc, and to bad relationship habits.
Premarital Coaching 2
We can help you change your entanglements with parents and
past-partners, etc We can help you disentangle. A coach can help you
check that your love for each other is not based on some wild
transference to a relative or media figure.
We can help you manage transferences, dysfunctional habits and
relationship bonds to parents or past partners etc.
Entanglements . Mother-Son Bonds
. Father-Daughter Bonds
Systemic diagnosis is usually fast
and fun for both of you, and prepares you for ...
Premarital Coaching 3
Our marriage coaching can help you explore your relationship
strengths and weaknesses, not only now but also in your predictable
future. Dissolve conflicts before the conflicts dissolve your happiness!
We can help you explore the long-term aspects of living together or sharing a
Single Parent .
Online Premarital Coaching
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