Your relationship decisions and emotional reactions determine
whether you despair or prosper during downturns and recessions.
Increase your adaptability and flexibility. Don't let financial
recessions suck you into emotional recessions.
We help people manage emotions and improve relationships.
& Collapse Coaching
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Coaching in a Crisis
A recession is a difficult time for most people. How can you
survive economic recession while avoiding emotional recession?
First, stop punishing yourself! Stop sabotaging your recovery,
your health and your life! Second - change your emotional reactions.
Third - improve your relationships. The longer you wait - the
worse you can get. Then seek opportunities from a basis of
inner strength - not desperation.
Bear markets fall. We can help you
recession-proof your career and family. We can coach you as
you secure your current position, find alternate work before
you become desperate, and build an independent income that
can prosper during a downturn or slump.
A recession includes widespread job cuts, which impacts
household spending, consumer demand, manufacturing and investment.
Many people feel like lost children or victims. People become
cautious - attempting to limit their expenses, which deepens the decline,
which creates more caution ... less spending ... and so on. Economic or
emotional depression may feel close.
If you are over-extended or feeling stressed, create support and
relief. Give yourself attention. Get adequate sleep. Try avoiding
caffeine (especially after 4:00 pm) and getting more exercise. If
insomnia is a problem, deal with anxiety
and worry. Find simple things that comfort you such as music, children,
pets, or watching a good movie. Avoid alcohol, overeating, or using
drugs. Eat balanced meals. Take some time off work to meet demands
without worrying about your job.
Call some supportive people. A phone call to a good friend or
a visit from someone you trust may bolster your spirits and let
you let relax. Perhaps call a spiritual advisor for advice,
prayer and comfort. Find someone who can help you sort through
difficult emotional problems. Join a support group.
We help people change unpleasant emotional reactions, limiting beliefs and
stress. We coach people to change stress-related obsessions and compulsions. If
even one member of a family, team or organization changes dysfunctional
patterns, other members of that relationship system can move towards health.
Systems theories predict human relationship behavior.
Systemic variables both predict and produce
behavior; including physical and emotional responses.
The families and organizations who prepared for a recession will
likely come out of it in healthy and strong. They will have a better time during a
recession because of their planning. Those who ignored the risk of recession but
reacted quickly when the downturn began will do better than those who live on
hope and prayer, and still donít recognize how serious the problems are. If and
when they do react, it may be too late to do anything except hope for charity or
pray for state assistance.
Avoid giving your employer or team members reasons to
question your loyalty or allegiance. During a layoff, employers will first
terminate employees who are often late, who disturb others or who are not
team players. You may wish you had started recession coaching a year
ago ... but it's not too late!
Control Stress: Checklist for Change
Are you a recession victim or a recession survivor? Neuroscience
predicts that prolonged stress damages your brain, cardiovascular and immune systems.
If you feel recession stress, or if you are in danger of it, we can coach
you to manage stress, increase your resiliency Ė and to create, test
and follow well thought out plans.
- Do you only try to do what worked before?
- Do you see the problems and potential consequences?
- Do you try to treat the symptoms rather than the
If you try to fix relationships in troubled times,
you are likely to:
- build resistance (to your arrogance)
- waste time trying to analyze people
- be irritated if people don't appreciate your
If we coach your family, team or organization,
we help you:
- explore the who, what, when, where, and how
- observe and relate to members in all parts of the
- investigate system traumas, myths, patterns,
rules & bonds
Recession Coaching - Communication
You still have all the resources that
you had before the challenging times. We can help you use them.
- We can develop personal relationships with each
- We can contact peripheral members, to
gather information to gain perspective
- We may, with permission, explore perspectives
Cut-off members of a family, team or organization are
often people who broke the rules and were kicked out. Excluded people can
give important feedback about the rules.
Rich or Poor?
Unless you live in a saturated market there are probably
alternate positions. What can you do to recession proof
your work? Keep your eyes and ears open. Ask your manager,
CEO or company owner how things are going and if the organization
is stable. Don't just ask if there is anything you can do to help
... suggest what you can do that can benefit you, your family, team
Some people become
richer if they take advantage of opportunities that other people
do not notice. We can coach you through these volatile times.
If you hear rumors about cutbacks and layoffs, explore what is
true ... don't pass along gossip. How you ask
questions or offer advice may trigger emotional responses.
your emotional reactions seem out of proportion to your words, then
we can explore the underlying causes to find appropriate and effective solutions.
- After we observe your habits, we can help
- We help you predict
the responses to expect, and control your stress
- We help you communicate your thoughts and feelings
in skilful and helpful ways
Systemic Recession Coaching
We can take a position in your family or team ...
we become your temporary guests.
- We find balance between observing abstract values
and specific actions; between observing internal
processes and external behaviors; and between being
serious and humorous.
- We remain emotionally poised:
If we find relationship triangles, we:
- we avoid taking sides
- we avoid believing criticism about absent people
- we arrange one-to-one coaching as well as group meetings
We help people defuse withheld secrets and hidden agendas
that form boundaries
between secret keepers and naive members that foster
and perpetuate anger and hatred.
- communicate with people who have been cut off from the
- communicate with people who are important to
the senior members
- communicate with people with more or less authority than
We remain aware of your feelings ... anxiety,
sorrow and anger can warn you that you may be getting
sucked into transferences or other systemic communication loops.
We try to use anniversaries, lay-offs and
deaths to contact excluded members.
We are aware of the systemic forces that follow the loss
of a member, and how members of a system try to compensate for the missing
There are opportunities in
recessions. Some people
will survive and thrive - why not you? Some
steps of our strategy are:
- build a sense of urgency (with courage, not fear)
- help leaders or parents build healthy relationships
- recognize deficiencies, set goals and make plans
- develop visions, goals and strategies with all members
- encourage participation and cooperation to clean up the
Survive a recession -
invest in systemic leadership and emotional coaching.
Contact us to manage success blocks and relationship problems
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