Are you or your partner enmeshed in difficult or painful
Do you suffer from your parents' drama, or from your
Do you want to untangle your lives ... as you reclaim
your freedom ... together?
Contact us to resolve negative emotions and
Reconciliation that WORKS!
Is your marriage or partnership in trouble? Is it time for you to
decide whether or not to continue an existing relationship - or whether
or not to attempt reconciliation - or whether or not to separate?
Key ingredients of good partnership include understanding, love,
acceptance, gratitude, responsibility and teamwork. Our individual
help can help you manage negative emotions and prepare for happy
partnership. Our couples coaching can help you and your partner manage
relationship problems, while our family counseling can help you solve
problems with your extended family.
Do you stay in a partnership out of despair or elation? Do you feel
trapped? Do you pray for your partner to change? Do you consider or try sexual
affairs? Do you hope to be rescued? Or do you want to change your relationship
habits and build your partnership on integrity for lasting happiness?
Important relationships require your constant
Coaching Flowchart & Testimonial .
Couple Communication Exercises
Good intentions may not survive predictable partnership
challenges. We can coach you to evaluate, reconcile and
change your relationships - and your relationship habits.
We can help you and your partner express love, build
commitment and share your partnership skills.
We can help you understand and validate each other's history,
perspectives, beliefs and values, as a basis for a caring
relationship which supports you both. We don't ask anybody to
give up or give in! We can coach you to coach each other.
Put ELATION into RelationSHIPS
How do you show love to each other?
Your relationship depends on how you both express love
for each other. Insincere or withheld love may not survive the
challenges of everyday reality. Does one of you not commit to
partnership because of bad habits, relationship problems,
confusion or emotions? Your feelings that you call love may
not be enough - a good partnership needs partnership skills.
We were in love and we got married -
and a year later we were talking about divorce. Fortunately we talked to
you before going to a court. We learned about how we can give
and receive love, instead of assuming that feeling good was enough.
Can reconciliation solve your problems?
How long do you wait before you seek help? Do you wait until
your suffering reaches PANIC? By then, it may be too late - you
may alienate your partner. The
earlier you request our online services - the more likely
that we can help you.
Do you both want to solve relationship problems? Or
do you create problems to motivate separation? If you or your
partner is sabotaging your partnership, your situation may seem
unsolvable and your separation inevitable. Do you both want intimacy and
We can help you and your partner manage old arguments;
financial problems, boredom and frustration. If both of you can
commit to your partnership - we can help you make
budgets, reverse boredom and change arguments into
My (gay) partner and I
have been together six years ... you helped us explore how
to love each other while preparing for when his HIV
positive state becomes AIDS.
If either one of you rejects possibilities for
reconciliation, then separation or affairs may seem
inevitable. Although we provide separation and divorce coaching -
we prefer to help couples love each other. We coach couples to transform their lives.
Your Partner is not Perfect
And neither are you! Many people become partners -
and many people separate - are motivated by fantasies. What seemed perfect yesterday may be intolerable today ...
Reasons for Marriage and Divorce
These may seem funny ...
and these are VERY realistic!
I loved him because he
was so confident and assertive;
I left him because he was so domineering.
I liked her because she was so
gentle and petite;
I dumped her because she was weak and helpless.
I married him because he had a good income;
I divorced him because he was always working.
I married her because she was always so
I left her because she spent so much time in front of a mirror.
I married him because he was so romantic and sociable;
I divorced him because he was such a fun-loving playboy.
I married her because she was so quiet and dependent;
I divorced her because she was boring and clinging.
I loved him because he was so neat and organized;
We separated because he was compulsive and controlling.
I married her because she was so sociable and talkative;
I left her because she would never shut up.
I adored him because of his great sense of
I left him because he kept laughing at me.
Do you imagine that somewhere a perfect person is waiting
for you? Or, maybe your partner wants to make a change (e.g. new job,
new house or traveling) that you feel excludes you? Did
one of you have an affair? Most relationship crises are predictable
- and preventable - and we can help you both survive them.
. Premarital Coaching .
Do either of you confuse relationship goals with manipulation or emotional blackmail?
Reconciliation requires careful evaluation to find out
what happened, why it happened and how to effectively prevent similar
issues in the future.
I married a perfect woman. She was
clever, rich and gorgeous. But when her dad had money problems, we both
had to work and we were soon fighting every day. Although we were ready
to split, your reconciliation sessions helped us ... we don't have
expensive cars and holidays now, but we are adult partners ... not
adult children! Sussex
Do you want Reconciliation?
We can help you evaluate and improve your partnership - and
reconcile relationships with family, ex-partners, friends and
colleagues. We can help you resolve doubts and make
realistic decisions about the shape of your lives together.
Me and my husband were ready to end twelve
years of marriage. We had given up. When a friend told us about you, we
thought we were too far gone ... but you helped us change many of our
worst habits. Although that was painful, now we can
love each other as we rebuild our life together. Chester
If you do not solve partnership problems quickly - you may
destroy a potentially-wonderful relationship. Your expressions of
love can become bogged down in emotional incest, passive-aggression,
depression, codependence - or worse.
Why wait for worse? Why wait at all?
Happy partners usually have similar
core values - and they don't agree on every detail.
We help couples manage emotions, communicate values, clarify
relationships and make clear decisions. We help couples enjoy reconciliation, as they learn to appreciate each other and share
their highest values.
You helped us discover
that our values were compatible, and that we both wanted
the same type of relationship. Your couple coaching transcended our personal goals,
sexual attraction and habits -
you reminded us that we can choose to be happy together.
We help partners understand each other
and make clear decisions.
We can help you resolve negative emotions and relationship problems.
If you want reconciliation, we can help you rebuild healthy,
Contact us to resolve negative emotions and
Online Counseling for Reconciliation
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