Relationship intelligence involves understanding yourself and others,
managing unpleasant emotions and solving relationship problems.
Relationship Intelligence and Systems Coaching
We can help you understand your motivations,
your behaviors and your impact on other people. We can also help you understand
the behaviors and motivations of other people - and why they behave as they do
with you. Then you can
make better choices about solving your relationship problems.
As you gain skill at making relationship decisions and solving relationship
issues, you increase your relationship intelligence. Two important applications of relationship intelligence are communicating
your emotions and solving
Some other applications of relationship intelligence are the abilities
- Recognize identity loss
- Identify relationship strengths
- Identify the real reasons for conflict
- Identify behaviors that indicate conflict
- Set partnership, team and family goals
- Find long-term solutions for interpersonal
Relationship intelligence is much more than being polite.
Relationship intelligence requires observation and focus. Relationships are
contact sports ... and sometimes contact sports include injuries.
Some relationships require mental stress, emotional upsets or physical diseases.
Without these symptoms, balance would be lost and the relationships would
dramatically change. If a conscious awareness of a need for problems
would threaten important relationships, that awareness is hidden too - it becomes
To avoid such
awareness, many people distract themselves from acknowledging their
relationship constraints or deliberately avoid healthy relationships.
Two common unconscious motivations (but not the only causes) may be to avoid being
happier than a parent or to symbolically bring a rejected person back
into the family.
Relationship Intelligence in Human Systems
Members of human systems have roles and purposes. As a system establishes balance
(homeostasis), each member adapts themselves to their roles and purposes. As each member fulfills their individual
roles and systemic purposes, their paths can blossom into happiness and satisfaction.
Conflicts are inevitable in human systems. It is unlikely that every
member will enjoy their roles forever. Sooner or later, people will change
their values, their beliefs and their goals. Leadership is required as
emotions surface and behaviors change.
We help people:
- evaluate and clarify relationships and
- define goals, change objections and plan for
- end self-criticism and inner conflict to recover
- recover identity loss; missing qualities,
expertise and skills
- manage relationship bonds for healthy
- resolve emotional trauma and rebuild motivation
- end mentor damage and find inspirational mentorship
- coach couples and partners to solve their conflicts
- coach team leaders to coach their teams
- coach parents to coach whole families - together
Our training can be used as a basis for executive coaching,
leadership coaching, educational coaching, business coaching, cross-cultural coaching,
refugee coaching, sales coaching, therapeutic coaching or personal coaching.
. Coaching Young Adults
. Coaching Older Clients
Systems Counseling for Intelligent Partnership
Key ingredients of good partnership include understanding, love, acceptance,
gratitude, responsibility and teamwork. Our individual coaching
can help you solve individual issues and prepare for happy partnership. Systemic
couple counseling can help you manage partnership problems, while systemic
family coaching can help you solve problems with children,
in-laws, and other family challenges.
Do you stay in a partnership out of despair and depression?
Do you feel trapped? Do you pray for your partner to change? Do you consider
or try sexual affairs? Do you hope to be rescued? Or do you want to change your
relationship habits and build your partnership on
integrity for lasting happiness?
Coaching Flowchart & Testimonial .
Couple Communication Exercises
Your good intentions may not survive your partnership challenges.
We can coach you to evaluate and change your relationships - and your
relationship habits. We can help you and your partner express your love,
build your commitment and your partnership skills.
We can help you understand and validate each other's history,
perspectives, beliefs and values, as a basis for a caring relationship
which supports you both. We coach partners to coach each other.
Systemic Couple Coaching .
Death of a Partnership
Do you want training to provide systemic coaching to others? The keys
are intelligence, analytical skills and the ability to recognize patterns.
My entire family died in an accident.
I lived my life on their graves, guilty that I was alive.
You helped me respect and thank my family ... and move on.
Our trainings offer you relationship insights
and skills for many applications.
Develop your relationship intelligence and your ability to fulfill
Contact us to manage negative emotions and solve relationship
Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Training
I thought you were just
another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
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