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Coaching for Single Parents
Solutions for Single Parent Problems Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions?

Single Parenting Problems (Continued in Single Parents)

Single parenting is sometimes a challenge, accepted with good intentions (look how strong I am!). Later it may become overwhelming. People deciding to raise children alone need financial resources, emotional stability and wisdom to fulfill one's own life and a parental role.

Good intentions are rarely enough. Many single parents lose themselves in duties and problems, and often lack parenting skills. They may need to learn how to make enough money, how to talk with children, how to share with other parents, how to deal with their own strong emotions.

Many people offer abstract or ineffective advice to single parents, advice which may be quite useless. We focus on managing emotions and solving relationship problems.

  1. How can you teach a child to love a missing parent?
  2. How can you end a crisis and come back to normal life?
  3. How can you feel good about your dead, missing or absent partner?
  4. How can you honor your children's other parent - if you feel strong emotions?
  5. How can you stay joyful, if you cry for hours before your children come home?
  6. How can you care for children when you lack the energy to look after yourself?

Solving Problems for Parents

Answering these questions are not easy and there are no foolproof recipes. Each family is unique and problems need specific, appropriate solutions. Not all fathers who leave a family are monsters, not all mothers are the best choice for raising children, and not all helping professionals offer systemic solutions.

Sometimes parents seem less mature than their children. Sometimes good parents of young children cannot cope with teenagers. In our systemic psychology, we look carefully for long term solutions, which enable parents raise their children, even if separated from each other. We help people find new shapes of love - between the partners and for the children.

Many parents who leave the family stop expressing love toward the children because of guilt. Many parents who stay with children feel unable to express love toward another parent because of anger (I lose my freedom and you get it back).

Many children cannot express love to a parent who leaves a family - feeling blocked by the parent who raised them (Mom might be angry if I feel good about Dad)

I didn't know how to talk to my daughter about her father. I felt so angry that I could only criticize him. After two sessions with you, I could tell her good stories about her father ... My daughter relaxed a lot. She can now smile and laugh with her Dad. Thank you! Essex

Children of Single Parents

Some people, after separation or a partner's death, are so overwhelmed by emotions that they stop supporting their children, especially when their children are quiet.

Your children may distract themselves and say little, which you may interpret that the children don't understand or don't care about what's happening. Yet withdrawal often means that the children are in deep distress, pretending disinterest while hoping for miracles. Few children can verbally express their feelings about their parents' separation, or about the absence or death of a parent.

Children need patience and wisdom and special care when their parents split. Many people ask their parents or relatives to look after the children for a time, while they sort out their finances and emotions.

Compare this California report with your hopes for your children's happiness ...

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
  • 85% of all youths in prison are from fatherless homes
  • 71% of all high school dropouts are from fatherless homes
  • 71% of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents
  • 75% of children in single-parent families will experience poverty
  • 85% of all children with behavior disorders are from fatherless homes
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
  • 75% of all adolescents in chemical abuse centers are from fatherless homes

Divorce Coaching . Children of Divorce

Manage Negative Emotions

Every parent's nightmare is that their children are harmed and this nightmare can cause parents to lose sleep and be overprotective.

We help people heal their emotional baggage and deal with sadness, anger, anxiety and other unpleasant emotions.

Continued in Single Parents

Contact us to resolve emotional and relationship issues

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email