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ome thoughts and insights from Martyn's trainings.


  1. Nobody dies - only bodies
  2. There's no such thing as a family secret
  3. Children will try to complete what their parent's start
  4. Your body and your mind will reflect your relationships

The experience of Integrity or Soul during our systemic psychology corresponds with descriptions from many spiritual traditions. Many people attracted to our work want to directly experience the Sense of Life or Integrity that is the Soul of Soulwork...

  1. Soul communicates through behavior
  2. You can only consider what you can comprehend
  3. Soul cannot be comprehended - Soul can be experienced
  4. Soul communicates through clarity, courage, focus ... and suffering


  1. Soul is reality: from your reality, you express your sense of life
  2. Soul is experience: from your experience you choose how to act
  3. Soul is consciousness: from your consciousness you focus experience
  4. Soul is connectedness: from your connectedness comes consciousness


Your life is your eternal springtime, as consciousness blossoms into connectedness. Soul experience is your summer of inspiration.

  1. Your harvest is your sense of life - your happiness
  2. You can transcend consciousness and experience integrity
  3. Your every action expresses your identity as you create your reality
  4. Your physical, emotional and intellectual appetites may fade in your integrity


Beliefs are generalizations: your verbalized summaries of experience by which you attempt to communicate abstractions.

  1. Create beliefs based on your experiences; and accept beliefs to strengthen your relationships
  2. You perceive your external reality through your beliefs. You will continually prove yourself right
  3. If you examine your beliefs, you can discover a stable experience of self - of YOU-ness - that transcends beliefs
  4. Reality is what's left when you stop believing in it


Use your senses to experience - to observe, to listen, to smell, to touch, to feel and to intuit.

  1. Everything is our experience of reality
  2. We can move past that which we observe, into Soul
  3. Listen to words, observe your images, and let them go
  4. Experience deeply, express intently and listen heartfully


  1. Feel the sounds around you as the pulse of your life
  2. Feel the abundant life around you - and including you
  3. Stop your thoughts and feel the wind, the rain, the sun, the earth
  4. Feel your rhythms of creation, your growth, your expanding life energy


  1. You cannot not communicate
  2. Express your intent and motivation clearly
  3. Share your experience with words and actions
  4. Accept and ponder your revelations before sharing them


Consider the potential meanings and purposes of each relationship. Observe your attachments to physical relationships and convert those attachments to conscious interactions.

  1. How are you using or abusing your physical body?
  2. Every relationship can be a profound spiritual experience
  3. Every relationship will mirror what you experience in yourself
  4. Physical, emotional and intellectual actions have spiritual consequences

Live Consciously

Conscious living applies knowledge and emotions with congruent action.

  1. Honor your life, and other lives, by fulfilling your life purpose
  2. Work together to bring harmony, restore balance and build peace
  3. Congruence reflects life experiences, decisions and consequences

Unconscious Living - Robot Habits

Your habits are your patterns of attachment. Study your routines. Observe your responses, feelings and actions. Recognize your habits as you interact with the world. If you respond only in the ways you know how to respond - you cannot recognize and transcend your habits.

  1. Observe the consequences of thoughtless, robot habits
  2. Observe robotic expectations and beliefs in yourself and others
  3. Move from habit to purpose by asking "What increases my lasting happiness?"


  1. Separation exists only in your mind
  2. Your actions always reflect your integrity
  3. Each moment connects the infinite with the temporal
  4. Your expectations, beliefs, judgments and attachments can block integrity

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email