Many emotional issues reflect family disturbances,
such as abortion, suicide,
murder, infidelity etc. These relationship issues may manifest as emotions,
limiting beliefs, individual illnesses and destructive habits.
We help people untangle their emotions and build healthy relationships.
Are you Ready for a New Chapter in your Life?
Enmeshed means that your boundaries with other
people are vague or blurred.
Do you want wholeness and justice; but you feel enmeshed with
your family's lives? Do you identify with
pain and suffering in your family ... especially ancestors,
siblings, partners or children? Do you try to carry their suffering?
People who take on or carry someone else's suffering
will experience strange emotions and illogical symptoms. If
they try to heal themselves, solutions are often applied at a wrong level.
For example, many people try to use drugs to solve relationship issues!
Emotions are flexible and can flow between people - especially between family
members. In entangled relationships it may be difficult to say who owns which
emotion! If one family member
becomes angry or depressed, others may react by becoming angry or depressed.
Many people, perhaps most, are enmeshed or entangled with their
family members, the living, the missing and the dead. These enmeshments can manifest
in many ways, and can be managed by people with
emotional maturity. We help
- Recover a sense of self
- Explore and define their goals
- Understand and clarify relationships
- Resolve any
- Recognize and repair any mentor damage
- Resolve consequences of trauma or abuse
- Change any limiting beliefs and
Spirituality and Family Coaching
Spirituality can be a family resource - and a source of
family conflict. Within a family, shared spirituality can shine
like a lighthouse - helping people to grow emotionally as they
grow as a family. Then each family member can be a resource for each
other's development. Yet conflicts about dogma or
"Who is right?" can tear families apart.
We help families develop a practical spirituality:
- Support each other
- Mentor younger members
- Experience maturity - not only aging
- Build foundations for success and leadership
- Experience connection to life and to humanity
- Support community harmony and social justice
- Manage emotions and solve relationship problems
Spiritual development may take place through study, prayer, meditation and
service ... by exploring and healing the "family soul" as they heal themselves.
People who respect other family members seem better
connected to their own lives.
Are the "sins of the fathers" really passed on to
their sons? Most cultures seem to have developed traditions
of honoring and propitiating dead ancestors ... to avoid such
entanglements between the living and the dead.
Your Family is Unique
We assume that each member of a family has a role and a purpose
that no one else can fill. As families improve their balance
and harmony, they redefine the roles and purposes of family members.
As they move towards their individual and family visions, their
life paths can open wide.
Ancestral entanglements seem to be passed down through many
generations, often becoming family traditions that motivate
behaviors, beliefs, compulsions and obsessions. Many family
entanglements are taboo bonds that cannot be considered, discussed or rationalized. Few
people can heal family problems or relationship issues that
they cannot even recognize, let alone talk about.
When people realize that they're not locked into their obsessions and compulsions, choice become possible.
can then perceive other family members as unique human beings who
were also caught up in similar entanglements.
As people understand their entanglements, irritation can turn
into compassion. And, if you have understood the roots of your own pains
and struggles, you probably find compassion for other people who are still
Temporary Family Members
We help people manage their emotions and solve family
problems. We use and teach skills and perspectives. We train coaches, counselors and therapists to help individuals, couples and
families move toward integration and connectedness.
Often, apparently simple problems represent mazes of
entanglements - and strange perspectives on a family and
its history. To better guide this exploration, we help
people interpret and understand how their histories affect
their lives ... and we use this to find lasting solutions for
emotional issues and relationship problems.
|I was skeptical
about your work, but a trusted friend, who is also a therapist,
suggested that I contact you, even though your premises seem off-base.
My experience was profound ... I do not agree with all your ideas
but I do feel an incredible relief that I cannot easily explain.
Guide us to guide you. Together we can explore
and strive to understand the emotional logic underlying your emotions and use it
to change unwanted relationship habits.
Integrity & Sense of Life
We help people explore their conscious beliefs and change their unconscious
bonds. We help people develop beliefs that support balance and harmony -
moving towards an experience of "Finally
... my life and my family makes sense!"
Few people can disconnect from their families or from their
family habits. Their lives are tied to their
family members ... the living, the missing and the dead. We help
people explore their goals and manage their suffering in the context of their relationships.
Again and again we find that pain and suffering affects other
family members, even across generations and international borders.
We help people manage the consequences - the beliefs, attitudes
and habits - of their bonds and entanglements
Some of these changes may be subtle and some dramatic, although
each provides opportunities for personal responsibility, family
integrity and community development.
Contact us to manage your emotions and
solve relationship problems
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