We offer coaching, counseling and therapy
and Hawaiian healing.
What is Soulwork?
Back in the early 90's, my colleagues and I were
exploring therapeutic theories and coaching methods to form an effective
methodology for helping people get what they want. All we wanted was a simple
methodology through which people can attain life goals and
change their habits, relatively quickly and easily.
We found that a golden key was to recognize the structure
of beliefs, and another was to help people find a stable experience of integrated connectedness.
We called this experience "Soul" or "Integrity" - and it became
so fundamental to
our methodology that we called it Soulwork systemic coaching.
I have described the theory and applications of our systemic
coaching elsewhere. The roots of Soulwork include traditional
Polynesian healing (huna), particularly the groups of rituals known
collectively as ho’oponopono, ho’omanamana and ho'omoe.
We explored these rituals using expert modeling and we compared and contrasted
them with models from psychotherapy, particularly with Ericksonian hypnotherapy,
Logotherapy and systemic family therapy. See Roots of Soulwork
What is NLP?
NLP offers useful tools for exploring subjective experience,
particularly in modeling performance. NLP provides useful
methods for eliciting unconscious strategies and coding subjective experience. NLP could be called brief, goal-oriented cognitive
coaching that includes some awareness of the consequences of change (personal
ecology). See NLP Ecology
What is Huna Kalani?
Polynesian traditions are often referred to as
Huna, (translation: hidden). Ho’oponopono (my
translation: making relationships right) is a healing tradition still
used by native Hawaiians, although sadly distorted by Western writers.
Soulwork originated in part when
we attempted to model and translate Hawaiian healing into a format appropriate
for Westerners. As we began to understand the psychotherapy used
by native Hawaiians, we expanded and
modified our tool set to incorporate information from these unusual frames of
reference. Our improved tools better allowed the modeling of mystical and
relationship experience. During this, the Hawaiian healing methods seemed to
transform from esoteric rituals into useful models for
Soulwork from NLP Perspectives
Our systemic psychology operates at the logical level of
Identity, answering the question "Who am I?" with
profound experiences - meta-identities - stable, pre-verbal experiences of
multi-level connectedness. We often call this integrity.
Interactive access to this often-ecstatic experience seems
to effect long term change at the level of Identity, in keeping with a person's long term happiness and sense
of life. Then people can
dissolve their own guilt, co-dependent relationships, post-traumatic stress (PTSD) and
so on. After a deep
analysis of goals, people can follow a sequence of meta-positions of increasing abstraction
to this pre-verbal experience.
Soulwork through Hawaiian Eyes
An effective teacher (kumu) can utilize a hidden structure of creation,
called Kumulipo, mediated by 'aumakua, or family
spirits and awaiku or angels. This work requires the blessing
of the person's ohana or community-family and of the the person's
kupuna – elders and ancestors (including those whose bodies may have died).
The goal is that a person can align with family energies and connects with
pono (righteousness) and aloha, the unseen love-energy of creation.
As this alignment is not possible if a person has "lost" his or her
uhane (spirit), or if a spirit of one or more other people have displaced a
person’s own spirit, "spirit-retrievals" may be made.
A step to health is kala
(cleansing forgiveness) leading to conscious connection with aumakua
(Soul) – using ho’omanamana (energy work) to access the wisdom of
kumulipo (universal creativity) to ho’oponopono
(change relationships). Next
follows a re-evaluation of ele’ele eke (literally "black bags" or past traumatic events) and a re-evaluation of all kupuna
(elders, teachers) from a basis of aloha (love).
Why do some people need coaching?
Some people lack motivation, or do not know how to change. People who say
that they are unable to change include those who have little internal
rapport, people negatively influenced by other persons, people without resourceful
internal reference and people with unhealthy life models.
However, we have solutions for motivated people. We follow an overall strategy:
- Dissolve guilt, manage
dependence, codependence and relationship problems
- Define goals, change objections,
resolve conflicts; create plans
- Resolve Identity Blocks: Lost Identity, Identifications and/or
- Find and stabilize integrity or Soul (the reference for subsequent
- Relationships - evaluate significant relationship bonds and influences
- Trauma - replace traumatic memories with resourceful internal
- Role Models - evaluate, replace and choose life mentors
Soulwork & NLP Rapport
We accept and uses a person’s
objections to increase trust. Conscious and unconscious objections are
responded to courteously, as a basis for the profound trust needed to discuss,
explore and change existential issues. Soulwork helps people change their objections,
transferences, arguments, criticism and conflicts.
NLP rapport is largely based on mirroring non-verbal behavior,
to "lead" another person to states that a NLP
Practitioners consider appropriate for the operator's goals. A common definition
of this rapport is "unconditional acceptance of suggestion".
Goalwork compared to Well Formed Outcomes
Few people can complete an accurate and grammatically correct
sentence beginning with the words, "I want..." Instead, people
more often give
philosophical answers, childish goals; incomplete sentences, conflicting goals,
incongruent goals, negative goals or abstract goals. Each objection to clear
can be resolved. (See: Peeling the Soul Onion.)
Lost Identity, Identifications and
Identity Conflict are not described by psychotherapy nor NLP.
Lost Identity refers to a person who has no basic sense of
"self". For this person, the pronoun "I" has little meaning.
refers to the displacement of "self" by another personality, and
Identity Conflict refers to a person with at least two
conscious personalities - and a few more less conscious personalities.
My article "Thoughtforms" was
published in NLP World Volume 2, 1995, about limiting or negative influences, typically described as
unpleasant visual metaphors. People may say "I have a black chain around my
legs" or "I have a gray cloud in my heart".
Thoughtforms often represent a person's relationship bonds.
At first we used NLP methods inspired by Robert Dilts.
A person steps towards an imagined ideal future with a sense of a goal
direction (although by itself this has no therapeutic value). If this is
preceded by clean goal setting, people can enter a state of transcendental
connectedness. If people object to lasting happiness, we incorporate their objections until
each step is resourceful, leading to goals that can fulfill life.
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