No philosophy that I have ever heard or read gave any
reasonable purpose for
man's existence, nor any rational clue to his proper
conduct. Robert Heinlein
Spiritual theories are interesting, not
for what they say about spirituality,
rather for what they say about people.
Our work has a spiritual dimension, and although
I have difficulty writing about an abstract spirituality, I often
help people access and explore specific experiences that many call
spiritual - experiences which are valuable when
searching for personal meaning, personal integrity and a personal sense of life.
Each person appears to have a core of integrity
and connectedness - an experience through which you can feel part of and
connected to all that is. (I don't ask you to believe me - experience it for
yourself!) I call this experience Soul, and this
path to it Soulwork. We often help people experience this integrity and
What do you remember from your early childhood? What do
anticipate in your old age? When we help people explore their
forgotten past and their future memories, many people describe a
sense of a primordial dimension - not lost, just not
yet found. I hear many descriptions of their experiences.
(For more on this see chaos coaching).
You probably cried when your baby body was born ... what will be your
last sounds when your old body dies, when your light
fades to darkness? When I say, "What was not born cannot die?", I
suggest that an unborn
you has always existed - and will continue to exist. Not only a memory
of your body or actions, rather an ongoing experience.
What are your reasons for living? Have you chosen a life purpose -
perhaps a purpose bigger than your life? Do you want to define and
fulfill your life purpose, and live a life rich in meaning? Do you
want to experience profound connectedness? You can access connectedness
by integrity and responsibility, tied together by how you express and
receive love. Or you can feel lost and without purpose.
You always have choices.
Spirituality & Maturity
Many of my clients describe feelings of isolation or disconnection.
My clients are typically highly educated, caring people, often faithful
to spiritual traditions that they learned as children. But
spirituality usually develops with maturity, opening a continuum
of truth rather than fixations on other people's definitions of ultimate truths.
Most young people accept first their parents' beliefs and
later the dogma of their parents' religion or philosophy.
Later, as young adults they are more likely to explore other paths,
often seeking ways to deepen and share a sense of life.
For me, a goal of spirituality is maturity
- which for me means appropriately expressing love, honesty and
integrity. This goal may only become conscious after a
breakdowns or a mid-life crisis
which challenge immature beliefs and bonds.
Personal development seems intertwined with spiritual development. Although I
help many people to change
their habits - and although they may be happier, more
competent, more successful, more balanced and less complaining;
I do not consider personality change or
increased resourcefulness to be particularly spiritual.
Simply being with mature people who enjoy life,
even if spirituality is not discussed, can motivate me to
be more mature - more complete. Expressions of honesty, love, and integrity
inspire me to deepen my search for my own path.
I cannot live in integrity if I condemn others, falsify facts or avoid
reality. I no longer seek esoteric agencies. Life is not a struggle if I flow
with it, life is a series of choices in which I can choose to act with
If enlightenment is a future goal,
it will never come, and life passes quickly. Focusing on the
future or the past seem to be egotistic functions that
block one's vision of NOW. This vision is more likely to arise if we focus on
all of life or all living things.
We show our integrity when we assess what we are doing or when we
explore our inner selves without prejudice.
Rather than searching for ways to appear special, we can follow our
own agenda. An ego - a sense of separateness - can be a wonderful tool
for learning from the past, for making decisions and for planning
Blocks to Spirituality
... any sect, cult, or
religion will legislate its creed into law if it acquires the
political power to do so, and will follow it by suppressing
opposition, subverting education to seize early the minds of
the young, and by killing, locking up, or driving underground
Do you want help finding your own answers and experiences about
life meaning and life purpose? We can help you create an inspired vision for
your life, your family or for an organization, especially if you seek to align
your daily activities with your values.
You can enjoy safe, speedy and lasting alternatives
to ineffective habits, to psychoactive drugs, hypnotic marketing and
programming. We can help you:
- Enjoy personal transformation
- Develop your honesty and integrity
- Find energy, hope and enthusiasm
- Build connectedness and happiness
- Trust your inner wisdom and integrity
- Be whole; at work, at home and at play
- Cope with grief, guilt, shame, change and loss
Do you want to evaluate your relationships and improve spiritual connections? Do you
want to change negative emotions and solve relationship issues?
If your life lacks sense, you can expect to feel bored, frustrated and
depressed, perhaps feeling trapped in relationships that lack meaning. A
developed sense of purpose and desire for
lasting happiness requires that you live a life that makes sense.
Do you want to move on? We can
- Help you focus on integrity
- Provoke you when you are lazy
- Support you in finding your vision
- Support you in planning your path
- Inspire you to design and create a meaningful life
- Help you change your barriers, blocks and resistances
Results and Feedback
When we ask for feedback, people often tell me:
- I better know who I am
- I better accept reality as it is
- I feel enriched by my relationships
- I experience more joy and happiness
- I attract more mature, responsible people
- I am more calm and peaceful under stress
- I have managed some difficult relationship situations
Other results include the simplicity and ease
with which you can calm your mind and connect with your sense of life.
When you can step into your power and enrich your life, you can live with a sense of Soul! We can help you create
a safe space to experience, explore and manifest your visions.
Do you want to calm your mind, end your self-criticism,
and clarify what you want
and the changes you wish to make? Do you want
to gain insights and perspectives
on your challenges and behaviors? Do you want
to manage your emotions, solve relationship issues and make better decisions?
Online Help, Relationship Counseling & Soulwork Therapy
Steps to Spiritual Experience
Accessing abstract experiences may be confused by doctrines,
dogmas, rites, rituals, mythic dramas and symbolic personifications.
Assume that you can experience a spiritual connectedness.
Develop a desire to become responsible, mature and to live
Accept the birth, life and death of your body as transient
Seek opportunities to transcend your transient life to
Find a guide who has experienced the path and is willing to
help you transcend your doubts, beliefs, resistances and other blocks
I thought you were just
another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
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