We offer coaching and counseling on spiritual experiences
that we more often call Lasting Happiness, Integrity ... or Soul.
Science, Happiness & Spiritual Development
People in our scientific society seem to read more
about spiritual life, spiritual growth and spiritual development than about
science. Yet, although most people consider spiritual development to be
important, our definitions and descriptions of spirituality, spiritual practices and spiritual
relationships are often wildly different.
Your sense of spirituality affects how you live your life and how you express love. Perhaps your relationships best reveal
your spiritual development. I perceive happiness, fulfillment, integrity and
connectedness to be relationship qualities - not individual skills.
Most spiritual paths requires spiritual mentors and
teachers. As spiritual mentors can only assist people who know less than they do
- some guidelines about how to recognize spirituality; and who is spiritually advanced or
spiritually developed or even spiritually healthy.
Let's start with spirituality.
Coaching for Soul Mates .
Is our work "New Age"?
What is Spirituality?
Spirituality appears to be an integral part of all
human cultures. Spiritual development may be regarded as connecting to something
external to the self, or as an internal experience, or both. At its most basic
it can be called luck. Lone survivors of disasters may be called
holy or chosen.
Spirituality is often defined as reverence for
sacred objects, learning holy chants and special songs,
repeating submissive body movements and reciting dogma. If so, spirituality
might then be measured in terms of ability to repeat chants,
copy body movements or remember dogma.
Spirituality may be perceived as success
without effort, in which unseen forces are assumed to support
certain individuals. Some people measure spirituality by unearned
Spirituality includes unusual varieties of human experience,
including an ability to communicate with what are often called gods,
spirits, ancestors, or non-physical realities. Spiritual evolution
can then be assessed as ability to channel information.
Spirituality includes connecting to spiritual agencies
through their symbolic manifestations - interacting with perceived
spiritual agencies with fear, respect, gratitude or reverence. Spirituality may
be assessed as ability to bribe
spiritual agencies, evidenced by good luck for a person, family or community.
Spirituality includes obsessions with
sacred images, chants, mythic language, incense and rituals. Such religious experiences can prove
a dogma and help form community bonds. Through our systemic work we offers
experiences of connectedness that many people say will survive death of a human body.
The validity of spiritual experience
is easily questioned. Experiences of relationships with esoteric
agencies may indicate saints in one culture - and schizophrenics in another.
Experiences following the ingestion of psychotropic substances may indicate
the presence of spirituality in one culture - and the absence of spirituality
The qualities of spiritual experience vary. Many practices taken
for granted in the West were once "spiritual experiences" including:
imagining, writing, spelling, mental arithmetic
Dr William James, in his lectures:
Varieties of Religious Experience (1902), described four
qualities of mystical experiences. Dr. James said:
"These four characteristics are sufficient to mark
out a group of states of consciousness peculiar enough to
... be called the mystical group."
- Passive: not willfully created
- Transient: short-term - not all-of-life
- Noetic: deep insights into non-intellectual
truth or reality
- Ineffable: cannot be described or appropriately
"I took your communication course
(Integrity Bridges) and was shocked to find
that everyday communications can become almost spiritual
I see people differently and I respond in ways that I like
For a computer geek like me, this is a different world."
Hierarchy of Spiritual Experience
The similarities and differences in spiritual experience across
human cultures follow a predictable hierarchy. Spiritual evolution
and development has many dimensions. Some important dimensions are
Environment, Things, Actions, Beliefs, Values, Identity and Transcendence.
These form a hierarchy of abstraction (suggested by Dr Gregory Bateson
in Steps to an Ecology of Mind, 1976):