If you feel suicidal, please take a few
minutes to read this. We will not try to talk you out of your bad feelings.
We are not psychiatrists nor are we particularly religious -
we are just people who know something about suffering ... and about
After a suicide of a family member
If you are considering ending your life - we ask you for a few minutes. During
these few minutes, you can read a few simple, practical ideas. We
won’t argue with you about your thoughts and feelings. If you
are considering suicide, you probably feel in a very bad state, with gloomy
perceptions of your future and unpleasant inner dialogue.
Depression usually means
life does not make sense!
Being depressed does not mean that you are crazy
or weak. More likely your life just doesn't seem to make much sense.
Life includes many kinds of suffering. Whether your suffering becomes
unbearable depends on your resources. Suicidal feelings may result when
your suffering seems to exceed your resources. Suicidal thoughts often follow a
crisis that exposes a lack of life purpose or no
meaning of life.
You can survive a suicidal crisis
if you can make your life make sense!
We wish to share a few thoughts with you.
1. You can get through this - even
if you feel as badly as you probably feel.
2. You can give yourself space. You can
say, “I will wait a day, or a week, before I decide anything”. Feelings are
not actions - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that
you have to. Put some distance between your feelings and your behavior.
3. You can find relief from
suffering. Remember that you have to be alive to feel that relief.
4. You can understand that people may react badly to
your suicidal feelings. Maybe they feel guilty, angry, frightened or
sad. Maybe they blame themselves. They are reacting to their own emotions, not to you.
5.Suicidal thoughts and feelings are exhausting.
After they subside, you can better care for yourself. Therapy is often a
really good idea, as are self-help groups in your community
or on the Internet.
6. You can find people who can walk
with you through this horrible time. Find people who will not judge you, argue
with you, or send you to a hospital. They will simply help you make your life
make more sense. Find one. Now. Tell someone what’s going on.
It is OK to ask for help.
7. You can talk about how you got to
where you are, release a lot of emotional pressure, and regain your balance.
- USA - call The Samaritans: Call
- USA teenagers - call Covenant House: Call 1-800-999-9999
- Look in your telephone directory for a crisis number
- Check out
- Call a doctor or a therapist
- Call a friend or a minister, a priest, an imam or a rabbi - someone who
- Calling the police (911 in America; 999 in UK) is much better than nothing!
A wonderful resource is a human being to talk with - someone who wants
to listen to you. Talk about how you feel and how you got here.
Many people want to hear from you. It’s time to look for them.
Can you talk to people who feels as bad or even worse than you do?
Strangely, this can sometimes provide enormous help to both of you.
A resource that has helped many people is a poem called
the Desiderata. It provides simple steps for living
life true to yourself.
To increase your sense of life, focus on your children,
and seek purpose in hobbies, projects or community involvement. Perhaps explore a
religion or spiritual path. We help people access and
experience integrity - an integrated connectedness (the
Soul of Soulwork) which
provides a profound and lasting sense of life direction and purpose.
Please consult your physician about any opinions
or recommendations about suicidal thoughts, medical symptoms or medical conditions.
We do not counsel people who are