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What is a System?
A system is a group of interacting elements.
A system can be an electrical circuit or the ecology of a rainforest.
Living systems are more complex than non-living systems, although
many systems include both living and non-living elements.
Living systems can refer to parts of an
organism, members of a group of organisms, or groups of organisms that
interact with other groups of organisms. Living systems
may interact with inanimate elements such as water or
oil. Many living systems can affect your survival potential - your health.
Some Systemic Elements of You
Your survival potential (health) is subject to internal and
external constraints, as both a living system and as an element
of many other living systems. If your environment is stable, you
need make little or no change to survive. If your environment is
unstable, you can survive by adapting or changing.
Sometimes your individual health is less important than the
systemic health of a human system. You may, consciously or
unconsciously, sacrifice your health for benefit the health of
another person, for your family or for a your community. You may
sacrifice yourself for someone else or for a common good.
Systemic Health = Survival Potential
Your survival potential reflects your health and your
ability to cope with stress - which can be biological, physical
or emotional stress. Your ability to cope with stress reflects
your age, your physical health, your ethnic background, your
education and your genetic heritage. Your survival potential
depends on your relationships.
Your health reflects your
available energy, your flexibility, your immunity
and your motivation to cope with change. You can change your
survivor potential by changing any of its components. Your body health
is in an optimum state when your immune system, cellular system and
endocrine systems are in stable equilibrium.
Excellent physical health often reflects excellent emotional
health. If your heath suffers during stress, you can reactivate
your health by exercise, diet and improving your relationships -
all of which appears to stimulate your immune, cellular and endocrine systems.
Systemic Thinking & Systemic Intelligence
Systemic intelligence refers to behavior in a system
that involves interaction and feedback both with elements within
the system and with the environment. Systemic intelligence reflects
an awareness of the influences of the system as well as the
influences on the system.
Living systems adapt to their environment with systemic
intelligence, and some will try to increase their systemic potential
at the expense of other systems. Systems that may benefit from your
not surviving may be systems that compete for your resources.
Competitive systems may include a thief who wants your
computer, a person who wants your partner, a neighbor who
wants your land, a rival team that wants your intellectual
property or a country that wants your country's resources.
Systemic intelligence includes your life philosophy - an
integral of your values and beliefs about yourself and your place in your
systems and your environment. (The work of Clare Graves predicts how
relationships evolve - and devolve - over time, due to systemic and
Living systems that may benefit from your disease or death
can aggressively reduce your survival potential. When living systems try to
reduce your organization and energy potential, your systemic intelligence
tries to generate an opposing reaction - to survive. You can survive aggressive
interactions with other systems if you can counter their systemic potential.
Systemic success may be called adaptation or
evolution. A lack of adaptation can result in diseases of
body, mind and spirit; or systemic destruction - disease, death,
genocide or extinction.
Systemic Family Planning
You are affected by the history of your relatives (parents, siblings,
cousins, uncles and aunts, grandparents, great-grandparents etc). Events
that significantly influenced your family over the past few generations
can cause significant resistance to success. For example, did anyone in your
- Give a child for adoption?
- Have an illegitimate child?
- Commit or attempt suicide?
- Experience traumatic events?
- Die or suffer during childbirth?
- Experience physical or mental disability?
- Have an abortion, stillbirth or miscarriage?
- Die in military service?
- Commit a serious crime?
- Suffer or die in a genocide?
- Lose an inheritance or a fortune?
- Never have an intimate partnership?
- Have a former spouse, fiancé or partner?
- Have a life-threatening accident or illness?
Uncovering these events need not require painstaking genealogical research -
experience in systemic psychology often gives insights into family events.
Sometimes, there ain't no such thing as family secrets.
You asked about my sadness ...
then you asked if my mother had an abortion between me and a sibling.
I was certain she had not, as my mother and I are very close ...
I told my mother about your question ... she was shocked ...
she had ... she said that it was in another town and that not
even my father knew about it ... but how did you know?
Individual Health in Human Systems
The onset of disease symptoms often seems to follow
relationship problems and emotional chaos. If you experience
relationship or emotional chaos, and you want to be happy, then
your success, happiness and health may require
- identify goals
- evaluate relationships
- change objections
- clarify problematic relationships
- change toxic or limiting core beliefs
- heal the consequences of any trauma or abuse
- find appropriate mentors that support your life goals
- create healthy partnership, dynamic teams and supportive
Some keys to solving relationship problems are
to know what you want, to know what other people want, to cooperate
with those people to fulfill common goals and
to build harmony.
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