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We present interactive seminars and
demonstration-rich workshops on systemic coaching, happiness, resolving
family chaos and relationship bonds. Email us if you would like a workshop in your area.
What is a System?
Although the word system can be used in
many contexts, a system is a group of interacting elements. This could describe
an electrical system or an ecology of a rainforest. Living
systems are more complex than non-living systems, although systems
may include non-living and living elements.
What are Living Systems?
Living systems can refer to parts of an
organism, members of a group of organisms, or groups of organisms that
interact with other groups of organisms. Living systems
may interact with inanimate elements such as water or
oil. Many living systems can affect your survival potential - your health.
Some Systemic Elements of You
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| Physical you |
Mental you
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Micro-relationships |
Macro-relationships |
| Immune system
Lymphatic system
Digestive system |
Your beliefs
Your values
Your identity |
Your family-of-origin
Your friends
Your partner & children |
Your organizations
Your communities
Your culture |
Systemic Health
Your survival potential (health) is subject to
internal and external constraints, as both a living system
and as an element of many other living systems. If your environment is
stable, you need make little or no change to survive. If your environment is
unstable, you can survive by adapting or changing.
Sometimes your individual health is less important
than the health of a living system. You may sacrifice your health to
improve the health of another person, for your community or for a non-human
living system. Or you may be sacrificed for a common good - you may be sent to war
or imprisoned.
Systemic Constellations . Chaos &
Coaching
Survival Potential = Systemic Health
Your survival potential within living systems
reflects your health and your ability to cope with stress - which can be biological, physical
or emotional. Your ability to cope with stress reflects your age, your
physical health, your ethnic background, your education and your genetic
heritage.
Your health reflects your
available energy, your flexibility, your
immunity and your motivation to cope with change. You can change your
survivor potential by changing any of its components. Your body health is in an optimum state when
your immune system, cellular system and endocrine systems are in stable equilibrium.
Excellent physical health generally requires excellent
emotional health. If you reduce your health during
relationship stress, you can reactivate
your health by improving your relationships - which stimulates your immune, cellular and endocrine
systems.
Systemic Intelligence
Living systems adapt to their environment with systemic intelligence,
and some will try to increase their systemic potential at the expense of
other systems. Examples of systems who may benefit from your not
surviving may are systems that compete for your resources.
Competitive systems include: a thief who wants your
computer, a friend who wants your partner, a neighbor who wants your land,
a rival company that wants your company's customers and a country who wants
your country's natural resources.
Other living systems that may benefit from your disease and
death can aggressively reduce your survival potential. When living
systems try to reduce your
organization and energy potential, your systemic intelligence
tries to generate an opposing reaction - to survive. You
can survive aggressive interactions with
other systems if you can counter their systemic potential.
Systemic success may be called adaptation or
evolution. A lack of
systemic success can result in diseases of body, mind
and spirit; or system destruction - death, genocide or extinction.
Systemic Family Solutions
You are affected by events in your family system -
your relatives (parents, siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts),
grandparents, great-grandparents etc. Events that significantly influenced
your family for the past few generations can be
significant in systemic coaching. For example, did anyone in your family:
- Die or suffer during childbirth?
- Suffer illness or disability from giving birth?
- Have an abortion, stillbirth or miscarriage?
- Have an illegitimate child?
- Give a child for adoption?
- Experience early separation from mother?
- Experience traumatic events?
- Experience physical or mental disability?
- Commit or attempt suicide?
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- Die in military service?
- Have a life-threatening accident or illness?
- Have a former spouse, fiancé or partner?
- Commit a serious crime?
- Suffer or die in a genocide?
- Join the clergy, a convent or a monastery?
- Lose an inheritance or a fortune?
- Emigrate and lose contact with the family?
- Never have an intimate partnership?
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This does not require intensive genealogical research -
systemic coaching precipitates a type of knowing about these events.
In Soulwork we say, "There ain't no such thing as a family secret".
Systemic Health
The onset of disease may follow such
relationship disturbances and emotional chaos as listed above. If you experience
such emotional chaos, then your health and even your survival may require
that:
- you decide what you want
- you assess your situation (where you are now)
- you clarify your relationships (with the
living and the dead)
- you dissolve inner conflict and objections
to happiness
- you change toxic relationship bonds
- you heal traumatic experiences
- you find appropriate mentors for a happy
life
Some keys to emotionally stable relationships are to know
what you want, know what other people want, actively relate with those
people and avoid counterattacking or withdrawal (even if provoked).
We offer effective coaching, coach training and mentorship.
Do you want to coach people to resolve emotional and relationship challenges?
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