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It's easier for health professionals and most patients to
use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine,
or with anti-depressants and stimulants, are easier than applying intelligence,
focus and analytical skills to complex relationship situations. Drugs
seem cheaper for the patient (in the short term), and more profitable
for health professionals.
But the long-term consequences of ignoring underlying
symptoms, together with the side-effects of psychoactive drugs, are unacceptable
to an increasing number of health professionals and patients.
Stress, Trauma & PTSD
Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved
death, injury, abuse or serious loss? Did you suffer a serious accident or a
life-threatening disease? Do you respond with anxiety, or helplessness, or perhaps horror? Do you
now feel disturbed when something reminds you of that event? Do you try to avoid
anything that reminds you of it?
Did you cut off and hide some part of yourself? Are you
depressed following a traumatic event or series of events? Do you feel detached or
fragmented or dissociated? Do you have panic or anxiety attacks?
Can you concentrate - or does your attention wander?
Do you feel exhausted, yet you cannot sleep properly?
Do you suffer from recurring
anxious or violent nightmares? Are you depressed -
yet you cannot find a cause?
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Military Intelligence |
Although mental health problems
are a part of warfare, a survey of 1000 US troops returning from the
Middle East and Iraq in 2005 found that a full 30% had problems such
as anxiety, depression, nightmares, irrational anger and an
inability to concentrate. A 2004 survey of combat troops in Iraq
combat zones showed that about 13% experienced significant
mental-health problems. Stress-related problems are often worse for
National Guard members, who try to return to civilian jobs after
active military duty. |
Unresolved trauma, from a stressful event or a series of
events, can cause flashbacks
and nightmares. You may feel emotionally numb or you may hurt yourself and
others with explosive emotions and mood swings. You may be diagnosed
with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression or
identity loss.
Trauma, PTSD & Stress Coaching
Soulwork systemic coaching can help
you heal the consequences of trauma in
war, terrorism, prison, accidents, rape, military service, domestic violence, childhood
abuse or surgery. We can help you to help yourself with our unique post-trauma coaching. Soulwork works.
Professional coaching strategies to resolve the
consequences of abuse and trauma are taught in Soulwork 6. To avoid
confused relationships and to accelerate healing, Soulwork resolves relationship issues
BEFORE trauma and fragmentation issues.
[ Stress .
Depression .
Insomnia ]
Forgotten, Taboo & Repressed Memories
You may have symptoms associated with
trauma, but not remember a trauma. You may have strong unpleasant emotions but
only remember a minor incident. You may have forgotten that you forgot a trauma.
Perhaps you were young or perhaps the trauma involved important people.
Soulwork can help you recover and forever
resolve traumatic memories.
A common effect of trauma is identity loss, in which you feel you have lost
part of your sense of
self, your sense of integrity or your sense of life. Identity loss has four main
varieties - identification, identity conflict, lost
identity and identity beliefs.
If you were abused, or if you participated
in or witnessed something that you could not rationalize, then you may
have "split off" some part of yourself. To maintain an important
relationship, you may believe things that you know are false. Soulwork coaching can
help you "pull yourself together".
Your
identity has been shaped in part by your parents, by ethnic or religious values,
by political propaganda and by your education. Your
symptoms may involve your cultural identity, such
as a racial or a minority group. Systemic coaching will acknowledge all of
who you are - and offer you choices.
[
Refugee Coaching . Exit Coaching ]
Consequences of Trauma
If you experienced trauma or abuse, or if you suffer from PTSD,
you are less likely to stay employed or married, and
you are more likely to feel depressed, isolated, aggressive or violent. You may
suffer a lower sense of well-being than most people - and only relate to people who also
suffered trauma.
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PTSD - Common Symptoms following
Trauma
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- accident prone
- anxiety and hypochondria
- apathy
- chronic or phantom pain
- dangerous relationships
- depression
- digestive problems
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- dissociation
- hopelessness
- hyperactive
- isolation and withdrawal
- mood swings
- panic attacks
- phobias
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- promiscuity
- self-harm
- sleep disorders
- startles easily
- substance abuse
- volatile emotions
- worthlessness
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If you "split off" part of yourself as a child - you can
integrate that part as you resolve the trauma. Until then, you may feel and
act like a wounded child whenever something reminds you of the trauma.
Relatives, especially your children, may try to carry your burden.
Your decreased sense of life and mood swings may be interpreted as
"victim" or "unable to love". Your helplessness
may motivate your children to try to protect you as they would a child.
The consequences of your unresolved confusion and fragmentation can
include Learning
Disabilities, Depression,
Schizophrenia and
Bipolar Disorder in themselves and your children.
Resolving PTSD, Abuse & Trauma
Some symptoms associated with abuse and trauma can be
managed with medication. But if the underlying identity loss is not
restored, there is
a danger that the symptoms will return, often in other forms, perhaps
precipitating long term dysfunction. Adult dysfunction is most evident in
relationships.
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Feedback |
I was a soldier during Croatia's
war with Serbia. My unit was abandoned in a village attacked
by the Yugoslav army. I saw civilians being butchered ...
and I ran. I found a hole in a corn field and I stayed in that
hole for three days, then escaped. Part of me
died in that hole. Since then I could not concentrate and
I would feel shocked to tears by sudden loud sounds. I was diagnosed with
PTSD ... During Soulwork, I found and nurtured part of me who I thought had died in that hole. Now I can concentrate and focus - I am myself
again for the first time in many years. Zagreb, Croatia, 2005 |
If you have suffered abuse or trauma, you may have tried to
distract yourself with alcohol, drugs, sex or food. Soulwork can help you regain your values and live with integrity.
Drugs and obsessions become unnecessary as you rebuild your identity
and realign with your life purpose. We can
help you develop self-respect, integration and
healing. We can help you live and love again.
[
Soulwork Flowchart . Addictions
. Sexual Issues ]
Loss of a Beloved Pet
If your pet was like a family
member, then the shock of losing your pet, especially in an accident, is trauma, and the consequences
are similar to PTSD. Soulwork systemic coaching can help
you heal traumatic relationships with pets.
Renewal
Soulwork coaching and Soulwork 6 training offers systemic solutions for trauma and
abuse. Soulwork can coach you to rebuild your relationships and help you
clarify relationships with people who are
missing or dead. You can recover lost or hidden parts of yourself -
and then your integrity, your essential identity. Soulwork can help you move on with your life.
[ Relationship Coaching Overview . Soulwork Review by
a Medical Doctor ]
| My mother and me were in
a car crash when I was thirteen and I watched her die. I had years of
therapy for
panic attacks, but it didn't help much. Six hours of systemic coaching helped me
find myself. Now I'm at university. Thank you!
JK, Warsaw, Poland |
NOTE: Consult your physician regarding
any opinions or recommendations that concern any medical symptoms or medical conditions.
Do you want relationship coaching or systemic coach training? Do you want to coach people to resolve emotional and relationship challenges?
Copyright © Martyn
Carruthers 2004 All rights reserved.
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