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Systemic Solutions for Stress, Trauma & PTSD

Advanced Systemic Solutions with Martyn Carruthers

It's easier for health professionals and most patients to use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or with anti-depressants and stimulants, are easier than applying intelligence, focus and analytical skills to complex relationship situations. Drugs seem cheaper for the patient (in the short term), and more profitable for health professionals.

But the long-term consequences of ignoring underlying symptoms, together with the side-effects of psychoactive drugs, are unacceptable to an increasing number of health professionals and patients.

Stress, Trauma & PTSD

Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved death, injury, abuse or serious loss? Did you suffer a serious accident or a life-threatening disease? Do you respond with anxiety, or helplessness, or perhaps horror? Do you now feel disturbed when something reminds you of that event? Do you try to avoid anything that reminds you of it?

Did you cut off and hide some part of yourself? Are you depressed following a traumatic event or series of events? Do you feel detached or fragmented or dissociated? Do you have panic or anxiety attacks? Can you concentrate - or does your attention wander?

Do you feel exhausted, yet you cannot sleep properly? Do you suffer from recurring anxious or violent nightmares? Are you depressed - yet you cannot find a cause?

Military Intelligence

Although mental health problems are a part of warfare, a survey of 1000 US troops returning from the Middle East and Iraq in 2005 found that a full 30% had problems such as anxiety, depression, nightmares, irrational anger and an inability to concentrate. A 2004 survey of combat troops in Iraq combat zones showed that about 13% experienced significant mental-health problems. Stress-related problems are often worse for National Guard members, who try to return to civilian jobs after active military duty.

Unresolved trauma, from a stressful event or a series of events, can cause flashbacks and nightmares. You may feel emotionally numb or you may hurt yourself and others with explosive emotions and mood swings. You may be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression or identity loss.

Trauma, PTSD & Stress Coaching

Soulwork systemic coaching can help you heal the consequences of trauma in war, terrorism, prison, accidents, rape, military service, domestic violence, childhood abuse or surgery. We can help you to help yourself with our unique post-trauma coaching. Soulwork works.

Professional coaching strategies to resolve the consequences of abuse and trauma are taught in Soulwork 6. To avoid confused relationships and to accelerate healing, Soulwork resolves relationship issues BEFORE trauma and fragmentation issues.

[ Stress . Depression . Insomnia ]

Forgotten, Taboo & Repressed Memories

You may have symptoms associated with trauma, but not remember a trauma. You may have strong unpleasant emotions but only remember a minor incident. You may have forgotten that you forgot a trauma. Perhaps you were young or perhaps the trauma involved important people. Soulwork can help you recover and forever resolve traumatic memories.

A common effect of trauma is identity loss, in which you feel you have lost part of your sense of self, your sense of integrity or your sense of life. Identity loss has four main varieties - identification, identity conflict, lost identity and identity beliefs.

If you were abused, or if you participated in or witnessed something that you could not rationalize, then you may have "split off" some part of yourself. To maintain an important relationship, you may believe things that you know are false. Soulwork coaching can help you "pull yourself together".

Your identity has been shaped in part by your parents, by ethnic or religious values, by political propaganda and by your education. Your symptoms may involve your cultural identity, such as a racial or a minority group. Systemic coaching will acknowledge all of who you are - and offer you choices.

[ Refugee Coaching . Exit Coaching ]

Consequences of Trauma

If you experienced trauma or abuse, or if you suffer from PTSD, you are less likely to stay employed or married, and you are more likely to feel depressed, isolated, aggressive or violent. You may suffer a lower sense of well-being than most people - and only relate to people who also suffered trauma.

PTSD - Common Symptoms following Trauma

  • accident prone
  • anxiety and hypochondria
  • apathy
  • chronic or phantom pain
  • dangerous relationships
  • depression
  • digestive problems
  • dissociation
  • hopelessness
  • hyperactive
  • isolation and withdrawal
  • mood swings
  • panic attacks
  • phobias
  • promiscuity
  • self-harm
  • sleep disorders
  • startles easily
  • substance abuse
  • volatile emotions
  • worthlessness

If you "split off" part of yourself as a child - you can integrate that part as you resolve the trauma. Until then, you may feel and act like a wounded child whenever something reminds you of the trauma.

Relatives, especially your children, may try to carry your burden. Your decreased sense of life and mood swings may be interpreted as "victim" or "unable to love". Your helplessness may motivate your children to try to protect you as they would a child. The consequences of your unresolved confusion and fragmentation can include Learning Disabilities, Depression, Schizophrenia and Bipolar Disorder in themselves and your children.

Resolving PTSD, Abuse & Trauma

Some symptoms associated with abuse and trauma can be managed with medication. But if the underlying identity loss is not restored, there is a danger that the symptoms will return, often in other forms, perhaps precipitating long term dysfunction. Adult dysfunction is most evident in relationships.

Feedback

I was a soldier during Croatia's war with Serbia. My unit was abandoned in a village attacked by the Yugoslav army. I saw civilians being butchered ... and I ran. I found a hole in a corn field and I stayed in that hole for three days, then escaped. Part of me died in that hole. Since then I could not concentrate and I would feel shocked to tears by sudden loud sounds. I was diagnosed with PTSD ... During Soulwork, I found and nurtured part of me who I thought had died in that hole. Now I can concentrate and focus - I am myself again for the first time in many years. Zagreb, Croatia, 2005

If you have suffered abuse or trauma, you may have tried to distract yourself with alcohol, drugs, sex or food. Soulwork can help you regain your values and live with integrity. Drugs and obsessions become unnecessary as you rebuild your identity and realign with your life purpose. We can help you develop self-respect, integration and healing. We can help you live and love again.

[ Soulwork Flowchart . Addictions . Sexual Issues ]

Loss of a Beloved Pet

If your pet was like a family member, then the shock of losing your pet, especially in an accident, is trauma, and the consequences are similar to PTSD. Soulwork systemic coaching can help you heal traumatic relationships with pets.

Renewal

Soulwork coaching and Soulwork 6 training offers systemic solutions for trauma and abuse. Soulwork can coach you to rebuild your relationships and help you clarify relationships with people who are missing or dead. You can recover lost or hidden parts of yourself - and then your integrity, your essential identity. Soulwork can help you move on with your life.

[ Relationship Coaching Overview . Soulwork Review by a Medical Doctor ]

My mother and me were in a car crash when I was thirteen and I watched her die. I had years of therapy for panic attacks, but it didn't help much. Six hours of systemic coaching helped me find myself. Now I'm at university. Thank you!  JK, Warsaw, Poland

NOTE: Consult your physician regarding any opinions or recommendations that concern any medical symptoms or medical conditions.

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Systems 1 How to evaluate relationship dynamics and recognize common entanglements
Systems 2 How to define life goals, identify blocks, resolve objections & plan for success
Systems 3 How to provide or continue goalwork using interactive metaphors and Dreamwork
Systems 4 How to dissolve the consequences of abuse and trauma, and rebuild motivation
Systems 5 How to change limiting beliefs and codependence for emotional freedom
Systems 6 How to recognize and resolve identity loss: recover lost qualities and lost skills
Systems 7 How to resolve therapist or spiritual damage and provide inspirational mentorship
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Systems 9 How to coach parents to resolve family problems and to set and enjoy family goals
Systems 10 How to coach team leaders to develop teams while solving team problems
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Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2009 All rights reserved. These Systemic Solutions were primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers. We coach and train people to succeed by solving emotional and relationship problems. This information is for your general knowledge only. Please consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing any medical treatment. Link to our pages, but get Martyn's written permission to post or publish his work.

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