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Emotional Issues
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Emotional Maturity
Grief & Loss
Inner Child

Pain Control
Stress Relief

Toxic Beliefs
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Relationship Problems

Dissolve Conflicts
Emotional Blackmail

Enjoy Partnership
Evaluate Partners
Long-Distance Love
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Sexual Issues
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Inner Conflict
Expert Modeling
Learning Disorders

Sexual Abuse
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What are Systemic Solutions?
Solve Emotional Blocks and Relationship Issues © Martyn Carruthers

Online Life Coaching & Training

Are you entangled in difficult relationships or negative emotions?
Do you suffer from old trauma? We can help you untangle your life.

Online Life Coaching Professional Training

Are you waiting for suffering to motivate you? Are you waiting for someone to tell you what to do?

Stop wasting time! Our private sessions can help you get the breakthroughs that you want - and that you deserve.

This is appropriate for people who tried therapy - and didn't get what they wanted.

Develop and use master strategies for life.

Private Sessions

Do you want to do something
meaningful and truly worthwhile?

Do you want to help people solve emotional and relationship resistance to happiness and success - and build a second income.

This is especially appropriate for
therapists, counselors, etc

You can learn systemic coaching in
eight 5-day workshops.

Overview of Coach Training

Relationship Skills

Strategies for Life

Success in any field requires supportive relationships and role models, and effective solutions for conflicts, limiting beliefs and negative emotions. Each step of our coaching strategies build on each previous success to prepare for the next goal. The sequence is as important as the goals - ineffective coaching or therapy wastes precious time on unimportant or irrelevant issues!

Do you wait for "suffering" to motivate you? Do you wait for someone to tell you what to do?
Do you wait for permission to live your own life? Or have you suffered enough?

  1. Current Crisis - assess and relieve shock and stress
  2. Systemic Diagnosis - assess relationship situations
  3. Relationship Clarification - untangle complex relationships
  4. Guilt Management - enhance your sense-of-life and regain motivation
  5. Goal Diagnosis - predict resistance to your goals and your resources
  6. Goal Coaching - define your goals and plan their fulfillment
  7. Conflict Resolution - find direction, resolve conflicts and make better decisions
  8. Identity Changework - manage identity loss and redefine your relationships
  9. Belief Changework - change limiting beliefs while protecting your relationships
  10. Trauma Resolution - manage unresolved trauma and regain lost resources
  11. Expert Modeling - use expert strategies and duplicate expert performance
  12. Mentorship - disconnect toxic mentors & repair mentor damage

Overview of our Coach Training

We help people explore what they really want, where they are now and how they can get from here to there. We coach people to achieve material success, emotional freedom and/or relationship happiness. We help people define and fulfill:

  1. their own individual goals
  2. the goals (expectations) of other people
  3. cooperative relationship problems (e.g. habits and conflicts)
  4. cooperative systemic goals (e.g. families, teams, communities)

Consider our logo ... with a few extra words

psychology, treatment, process, method, systemic psychotherapy, 
family psychotherapy, systemic solutions, conflict, addictions, family tree, 
alcholism, drug addiction, systemic methods, mental illness, mental disease,
emotional incest

Crisis & Maturity

First solve any current crisis. If you wait for other people to solve your problems or to resolve your conflicts. you may be stuck in immaturity and dependence. We can help you solve your own issues - and then you can help other people to change their lives! Dealing with any current crisis is a strong first step towards emotional maturity and lasting happiness.

Entanglements & Clarity

Next focus on peace and clarity. Improve and enjoy good relationships with parents, partners, ex-partners and children. Dissolve any relationship confusion (e.g. reacting to a partner as if to a parent, or to a client as if to a partner, with all the unpleasant consequences). Resolving enmeshed relationships can accelerate success in all parts of life. (See emotional incest.)

Conflict & Integrity

Choose meaningful goals and resolve goal conflicts - both conflicts on what goals and conflict on how to achieve those goals. The key is to find the hidden benefits of the conflicts as a path to resolving them. Resolving any chronic conflict can help you better focus on planning and fulfilling your life.

The end of our inner conflict resolution leads to an experience of integrity that many people describe as transcending space and time. You can then stabilize this experience as a stable life-resource, while defining life direction (or mission or purpose). See Soul of Soulwork.

Relationship Beliefs, Bonds & Choice

The word beliefs refer to feelings of conviction about a verbal statement or visual image; and the word bonds refer to feelings of connection, enmeshment or fixation. While beliefs are more conscious, and bonds (much) more unconscious, both beliefs and bonds can motivate and modify behavior.


We help people change fixations and limiting beliefs and increase their freedom and choice. As people manage their toxic bonds, fixations and obsessions, they feel increasingly free and peaceful; and subsequent coaching becomes increasingly concrete and goal-oriented. See relationship bonds.

Trauma, PTSD & Motivation

We define trauma as an experience which causes a person to split-off part of their consciousness; and the symptoms associated with these parts are called post-traumatic stress disorders or PTSD.

We help people find and integrate these split-off parts, which often show up as resistance to motivation and success. We coach people to end the emotional consequences of trauma, crisis and abuse and we help people assimilate and manage post-traumatic stress. Most people can transform their negative emotions into motivation to live a full life. See Trauma and PTSD.

Mentors & Inspiration


Part of our coaching is helping people evaluate their past and current role models and repair mentor damage. We coach people to find inspirational mentors to help develop their focus, integrity, supportive beliefs and motivation. Quality mentorship helps people find their goals -  and fulfill their life purposes!

Accept and encourage, provoke and challenge as you explore goals and consequences. Act now to manage emotional problems and relationship issues.

Online Life Coaching & Training

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1998-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email