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Systemic Coaching FAQ

Online Life Coaching, Relationship Counseling & Therapy

Most individual coaching is to increase individual happiness and reduce suffering.
We help people manage emotional problems and solve relationship problems.

Frequently Asked Questions about Systemic Coaching

  1. How does this differ from therapy or consulting?

  2. What does Soulwork offer ME?
  3. What happens during sessions?
  4. How can Soulwork help me personally?
  5. How can Soulwork help my relationships?
  6. How can Soulwork help my career?
  7. How can Soulwork help my organization?
  8. How do I find a Soulwork coach?
  9. Can I become a Soulwork coach?
  10. Where did our Systemic Solutions come from?
  11. How long is Soulwork coach training?
  12. What can I do next?

Individual & Systemic Coaching

Our individual coaching is to manage negative emotions, improve relationships and increase individual success. Our systemic coaching is to increase the adaptability and survival potential of relationship systems such as marriages and teams. We embed systemic coaching within our individual coaching.

1. How does our coaching differ from therapy & consulting?

A therapist can review your past and offer advice about your problems. We can coach you to explore what you really want and how to get it. We focus on your concrete goals AND on your long term consequences. Our work is preventative and remedial.

Call me a Stretch - not a Shrink! Therapists may research your past and make a  diagnosis. We can help you make all parts of your life right. Your happiness and suffering, your health and your sickness, reflect your lifestyle and relationship habits.

Consultants use their experience to give you advice about specific problems. They are expected to analyze problems and supply solutions. They may implement proposals in direct intervention.

We avoid short-term dissociation and focuses on long-term goals. We help you recognize and change whatever resistance you have to your chosen success, towards your chosen goals.

2. What does Soulwork offer ME?

Systemic Solutions offers reorientation for individuals, partners, teams and families.

  1. Clarify your relationships and manage guilt

  2. Define your success and resolve conflicts

  3. Find integrity and avoid symptoms of disintegration

  4. Dissolve or control mental and relationship diseases

  5. Transform your limiting beliefs into freedom

  6. Transform your trauma into motivation

  7. Build lifelong inspiration into your sense of life

We can coach you to reach your goals, while exploring your motivation, your inspiration and the consequences of your decisions. Some study with us for pleasure, some to enhance their knowledge and careers, and some want to change career to become a professional coach.

Our solutions are not hypnosis, psychoanalysis, new age nor NLP. We help you sort out your relationship problems and use your genius for your health, wealth and happiness.

3. What happens during sessions?

We normally arrange internet or private meetings with you and we offer to coach you on some topics. Telephone and Skype sessions are normally one hour and private sessions are typically between one or two hours. Many people achieve significant results in a few sessions.

You can bring one of us to you to for the benefit of your family, team or for people who cannot travel. We make this easy and affordable - especially if one of us anyway wants to visit your part of the world!

Explore your goals, their consequences and any hesitations that you may have about your goals. We help you use your objections to enrich and define your goals. (Objections expose partnership issues, which can be managed in couple counseling.)

4. How can Systemic Coaching help me personally?

Your success is limited or inspired by your relationships! If you feel that your relationships could be better, or that your life should be happier, then systemic coaching can help you. YOU are accountable for your actions. Happiness is reserved for people who choose to live their own lives.

Success requires clear relationships and meaningful goals. Symptoms are tools for measuring life quality. Our systemic solutions are for motivated, responsible adults.

5. How can Systemic Solutions help my relationships?

Success in relationships requires honesty, candor, humor and responsibility. Your family traditions, your history and your role models limit or inspire your relationship behavior! If you cannot find peace and clarity as a family member, as a friend, as a team member, as a partner or as a parent, then Soulwork coaching can help you.

We do not solve your problems. That's a role for social workers. Nor are we authoritative about why people have problems. That's for psychologists. Nor do we manage emotions with medication. That's for psychiatrists. Nor endless philosophy - that's for gurus We help you manage whatever stops you solving your own problems.

6. How can Systemic Solutions help my career?

Career success requires relationship skills. Regardless of your knowledge or expertise, without relationship skills you may find yourself alienated by colleagues and passed over for promotion. If your history and / or your attitude limits your professional development, we can help you.

However – you must be motivated to change, which may require that you resolve old bonds and trauma, learn new skills and find inspirational mentors.

7. How can Systemic Solutions help my organization?

Organizations may succeed despite internal chaos. CEOs, owners, founders and managers often create management and relationship structures that represent or replace their families. Many corporate cultures have similar qualities to cults. The stress can destroy both corporate and individual health.

If you and your colleagues can achieve more with improved relationship skills, then our coaching can help you use team and leadership skills, while your organization gets improved management skills.

8. How can I find a Soulwork Coach?

Email us. Our group includes medical doctors, lawyers, psychologists, artists, teachers, wilderness trainers, business people and other professionals.

We can explore your needs and your resources. Some of us may offer free telephone sessions so that you can explore the first step of our work without expense. Email us and mention your city and goals, to help us suggest someone appropriate for you.

9. Can I become a Soulwork Coach?

We accept motivated adults. We strive to make each class a cross-cultural experience, to enrich all our perceptions with the diversity of your experience.

Your attitude is more important than your education! Do you finish what you start? Are you determined, committed, and willing to learn? Are you friendly and co-operative? Are you self-controlled - can you "stay adult" in stressful situations?

Some successful coaches have few academic qualifications and others have university degrees. All have a talent for friendly, supportive communication. If you are more interested in people than in things, you are ready. If you want to offer an essential community service, you are nearly here.

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10. Where did Systemic Solutions come from?

Martyn Carruthers began developing this innovative philosophy for change in 1988. He integrated his background in emergency management and adult education with accelerated learning, systemic family therapy, NLP, consulting and expert modeling. See Soulwork Origins

11. How long is Systemic Coach training?

Most of our training is in 5-day segments. Training segments include many demonstrations and knowledge that can be used with the information from other segments. Each training is also a stand-alone course. Eight courses can usually be completed with in 18 months.


  • Basics: 2 5-day courses: 10 days plus 100 hours home study
  • Essentials: 3 5-day courses: 15 days plus 100 hours home study
  • Advanced: 5 5-day courses: 25 days plus 150 hours home study

12. What can I do next?

Do you want to expand your capabilities? Benefit from our professional training and years of experience, and improve your skills with on-going training, networking etc. Your success depends on your emotional maturity, your commitment and your training.

Do you want to solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts?

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

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