Our trainings are based on demonstrations, integrity and competence. We can train you to help people find or re-evaluate their goals, relationships and relationship problems. Our training shows people how to provide effective online help while avoiding symbiosis, transferences and other enmeshments.
Learn each step and how
it fits into the overall model. Watch demonstrations
Solve what stops people solving their problems
Do you want practical and experiential training? Learn how to plan sessions, how to make coaching contracts, how to clarify difficult relationships; how to manage guilt and conflicts; how to control obsessions and end compulsions; how to change toxic relationships and limiting beliefs; how to deal with trauma and abuse, and how to provide appropriate mentorship. Advanced & Specialty Training is available.
People are parts of relationship systems such as partnerships, families and teams. We coach individuals for individual success and we counsel human systems for systemic success - increasing the adaptability and survival potential of relationship systems. We show you how to embed individual coaching and counseling within systemic therapy.
We can help you
develop your skills in planning, assessing
Learn how to recognize relationship problems and clarify transferences. How to stay resourceful in chaos. How to recognize emotional incest and codependence. How to manage enmeshments and repair relationships with parents, partners and children. How to select exercise partners and choose clients.
Few people know what they want. Most people know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have an abstract ideas. Most people object to and sabotage their own goals. Many people have inner conflicts about their own failure and success.
Learn how to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections. Learn goal diagnosis and whole-brain goal planning. Learn how to manage "Yes-No" and "Yes-but" objections during coaching, counseling and therapy.
Explore proven ways to help people to use both their conscious and unconscious resources to make effective action plans.
Learn how to recognize and utilize spontaneous trance; helping people change using isomorphic and interactive metaphors (dreaming together). Learn how to rapidly identify and manage conflicts and how to help people make their own decisions. This is also wonderful for helping people end nightmares or recurring dreams.
Recognize and manage common resistance to success and identify which clients cannot benefit from coaching. Learn advanced tools - how people can use transcendental states to experience integrity. Learn how to stabilize an experience of integrity as a basis for dissolving emotional incest, relationship bonds and trauma, etc.
Systems 4: Trauma, Abuse & PTSD
Many people who do not set or achieve their goals carry the consequences of unresolved and often forgotten abuse. Until these are dissolved, people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They may sabotage themselves, damage their relationships or continually fail in important tasks.
The consequences of trauma and PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of life). Abuse may create the identity issues of Systems 4 and relationship bonds (see Systems 5). Attempts to manage trauma or abuse without resolving underlying identity issues and relationship bonds usually provide only short-term benefits. Our systemic training includes.
Systems 6: Identity Loss
Many people resist and avoid happiness; and endless goal coaching cannot help them find meaningful goals. This includes people who have lost themselves (identity loss), and people who have identified with others (identification).
Our systemic training addresses identity issues, relationship bonds and emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, are a basis for resolving complex relationship problems that often trigger depression and anxiety disorders.
Another fine piece of the complex
and comprehensive system called Soulwork.
Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship
Learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors. Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving techniques. Learn how to mentor people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.
Systems 7 training includes ways to manage the consequences of inappropriate mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see Exit Coaching), well-meaning therapists and friends. The consequences of relationship damage can pervade all parts of people's lives.
Systems 8: Systemic Couple CounselingLearn how to help couples or partners solve relationship problems (often involving parents or past partners) that prevent them from solving their day-to-day challenges. Coach partners to coach each other! Help couples increase love and manage complaints. Dissolve transferences (mistaking a person for someone else) and projections (pretending to be someone else).
Help couples prepare for committed partnership, end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully. Conjoint (simultaneous) counseling is the start of true systemic work.
Do you know how to build trust and intimacy? Can you improve your friendships? Help people balance acceptance and change, as they decrease reactivity, withdrawal and defensiveness.
How to repair relationship damage and heal wounds. How couples can fight fair and handle their own conflict. How to heal old wounds and resolve old conflicts quickly.
Help people align their skills with their passions
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