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Systemic Psychology Training
End Self-Sabotage and Enjoy Life

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Do you want to solve emotional and relationship problems?

Coach Training Personal Development Specialty Training

Do you want to do something truly worthwhile?

You can help people solve emotional resistance to happiness and success - and build a second income.

This is especially appropriate for therapists, counselors, etc

You can learn our systemic psychology in eight 5-day workshops.

Overview of Training

Do you want to improve your communication and relationship skills at home and at work?

We can help you increase your freedom from entanglements and relationship habits.

We can help you sort out some personal issues during demonstrations and exercises.

For rapid personal development

Relationship Skills

 Do you want to help people manage special situations?

Do you want to help people deal with issues such as abortion, adoption, compulsions etc.

Or you perhaps you want to be a supervisor or trainer?

Most of our specialty workshops are 2-days to 5-days.

Specialty Training

What does this cost?

Our trainings are based on demonstrations, integrity and competence. We can train you to help people find or re-evaluate their goals, relationships and relationship problems. Our training shows people how to provide effective online help while avoiding symbiosis, transferences and other enmeshments.

Is this you?

  1. Do you want to help people - or to help yourself?
  2. Do you want to enjoy building success?
  3. Do you want to enjoy your own development?
  4. Are you friendly, and motivated to help people?

Your next steps

  1. Get systemic coaching - experience its benefits
  2. Compare Soulwork training to other training schools
  3. Consider organizing our coach training in your area

And then

  1. Attend our systemic psychology training
  2. Find simple, cost effective ways to share your skills
  3. Learn how to set up and market systemic coaching
  4. Improve your communication and your relationships
  5. Add systemic coaching to your professional skills
  6. Consider offering an essential coaching service

Learn each step and how it fits into the overall model. Watch demonstrations
and practice those skills. Discuss what happened and what could have
happened. You can learn very quickly this way.

Solve what stops people solving their problems

Do you want practical and experiential training? Learn how to plan sessions, how to make coaching contracts, how to clarify difficult relationships; how to manage guilt and conflicts; how to control obsessions and end compulsions; how to change toxic relationships and limiting beliefs; how to deal with trauma and abuse, and how to provide appropriate mentorship. Advanced & Specialty Training is available.

People are parts of relationship systems such as partnerships, families and teams. We coach individuals for individual success and we counsel human systems for systemic success - increasing the adaptability and survival potential of relationship systems. We show you how to embed individual coaching and counseling within systemic therapy.

  1. Grow, learn and evolve - identify your vocation and manage your resistance
  2. Discover who you are - better define your life purpose and occupational goals
  3. Become the best that you can be - get the best training and mentors
  4. Honor your goals and the needs of our world - choose your specialties
  5. Specialize in your chosen fields - develop yourself, your products and services
  6. Continue to grow, learn and evolve as you create a life worth living

Overview of our Systemic Training

We can help you develop your skills in planning, assessing
and implementing systemic changework with individuals, couples, families
and groups. Develop your skills in courses of increasing depth,
that follow the sequence of our systemic psychology.

Systems 1: Systemic Diagnosis, Entanglements & Guilt

  • How to quickly assess relationship health and habits
  • How success, health and relationships are interconnected
  • How relationships evolve in a hierarchy of relationship types
  • How to create and interpret a relationship matrix (family maps)
  • How to make fast relationship diagnosis as part of a coaching plan

Learn how to recognize relationship problems and clarify transferences. How to stay resourceful in chaos. How to recognize emotional incest and codependence. How to manage enmeshments and repair relationships with parents, partners and children. How to select exercise partners and choose clients.

Systems 2: Goalwork, Goal Diagnosis & Objections

Few people know what they want. Most people know what they don't want, or what they should want, or have an abstract ideas. Most people object to and sabotage their own goals. Many people have inner conflicts about their own failure and success.

Learn how to recognize and respond to verbal and non-verbal objections. Learn goal diagnosis and whole-brain goal planning. Learn how to manage "Yes-No" and "Yes-but" objections during coaching, counseling and therapy.

Explore proven ways to help people to use both their conscious and unconscious resources to make effective action plans.

Systems 3: Conflicts, Dreaming Together & Integrity

Learn how to recognize and utilize spontaneous trance; helping people change using isomorphic and interactive metaphors (dreaming together). Learn how to rapidly identify and manage conflicts and how to help people make their own decisions. This is also wonderful for helping people end nightmares or recurring dreams.

Recognize and manage common resistance to success and identify which clients cannot benefit from coaching. Learn advanced tools - how people can use transcendental states to experience integrity. Learn how to stabilize an experience of integrity as a basis for dissolving emotional incest, relationship bonds and trauma, etc.

Systems 4: Trauma, Abuse & PTSD

Many people who do not set or achieve their goals carry the consequences of unresolved and often forgotten abuse. Until these are dissolved, people may act childishly in situations requiring maturity. They may sabotage themselves, damage their relationships or continually fail in important tasks.

The consequences of trauma and PTSD may be contextual, (e.g. a phobia) or existential (all of life). Abuse may create the identity issues of Systems 4 and relationship bonds (see Systems 5). Attempts to manage trauma or abuse without resolving underlying identity issues and relationship bonds usually provide only short-term benefits. Our systemic training includes.

  • recognize the consequences of emotional trauma
  • recover lost or hidden resources - for the long-term
  • transform limiting emotions into profound motivation
  • manage trauma affecting disease and health issues

Systems 5: Relationship Bonds

Many people feel compelled to repeat certain actions that they would prefer to avoid. Compulsions and obsessions often reflect relationship bonds - deep limiting beliefs and behaviors that can pervade all parts of life. Explore the deep structure of relationship bonds as you learn how to end relationship damage and help people change their bonds.
In Systems 5 you can learn how to:
  • recognize seven types of relationship bonds
  • limit the consequences of relationship bonds
  • help people assess their unconscious bonds
  • replace toxic bonds with self-esteem, freedom and love

Systems 6: Identity Loss

Many people resist and avoid happiness; and endless goal coaching cannot help them find meaningful goals. This includes people who have lost themselves (identity loss), and people who have identified with others (identification).

In Systems 6 you can learn how to explore the varieties of identity loss and effective ways for restoring personal integrity with systemic relationship coaching and interactive metaphors. You will witness many demonstrations with people with real issues, and you will practice to build your experience:
  • Lost Identity (person lives in endless dissociation)
  • Identity Conflict (person lives in endless conflict)
  • Dead Person Identification (person lives in endless sadness or melancholy)
  • Victim Identification (person lives in endless anger or rage)
  • Hero Identification (person lives in endless fear or anxiety)

Our systemic training addresses identity issues, relationship bonds and emotional trauma. Together, Systems 4, 5 and 6, are a basis for resolving complex relationship problems that often trigger depression and anxiety disorders.

Another fine piece of the complex and comprehensive system called Soulwork.
I hope that Soulwork develops and spreads, so that it can help people fulfill their lives.

Professor Martin mid, (PhD, Prague)

Systems 7: Inspiration & Mentorship

Learn how to evaluate and replace toxic role models and mentors. Help people choose inspirational mentors in all parts of life. Learn how to model and duplicate expert behavior, focusing on problem solving techniques. Learn how to mentor people to build and fine-tune life-fulfilling goals.

Systems 7 training includes ways to manage the consequences of inappropriate mentorship from cults and cult-like organizations (see Exit Coaching), well-meaning therapists and friends. The consequences of relationship damage can pervade all parts of people's lives.

  • find solutions for many sexual issues
  • how to start a systemic coaching practice
  • compare and fine tune unconscious strategies
  • help people recognize and manage therapy damage
  • expert modeling of conscious and unconscious strategies

Systems 8: Systemic Couple Counseling

Learn how to help couples or partners solve relationship problems (often involving parents or past partners) that prevent them from solving their day-to-day challenges. Coach partners to coach each other! Help couples increase love and manage complaints. Dissolve transferences (mistaking a person for someone else) and projections (pretending to be someone else).

Help couples prepare for committed partnership, end relationship damage and, sometimes, coach couples to separate peacefully. Conjoint (simultaneous) counseling is the start of true systemic work.

Do you know how to build trust and intimacy? Can you improve your friendships? Help people balance acceptance and change, as they decrease reactivity, withdrawal and defensiveness.

How to repair relationship damage and heal wounds. How couples can fight fair and handle their own conflict. How to heal old wounds and resolve old conflicts quickly.

  • how to quickly uncover partnership issues
  • how to prepare for couple counseling & divorce coaching
  • how and when to provide individual coaching to one partner
  • how to manage transferences and core transference loops
  • how to set homework for couples and marriage partners

Systems 9 - Family Coaching . Systemic 10 - Team Coaching

Help people align their skills with their passions

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email