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Systems Coach Training 1
Relationship Diagnosis & Clarification

Relationship Coaching Basics © Martyn Carruthers (5-days)

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Coach Training

People seeking our systems coaching may be individuals - or couples, business partners, families or teams. We embed individual coaching within systems coaching. Our training supports people who wish to solve emotional problems and enjoy better relationships.

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Systems 1: Relationship Diagnosis & Clarification

Our Systems 1 training is a stand-alone workshop, focusing on relationship diagnosis and relationship clarification. This 5-day workshop provides coaches, helping professionals and managers with practical information, systemic theory, demonstrations and exercises to better understand human relationships and to coach people to discover and change some of their emotional issues and relationship problems.

We develop these coaching strategies further during Systems 2 "Goal Diagnosis & Two-Mind Planning" training and Systems 3 "Interactive Metaphors & Dreaming Together" training. We use these strategies throughout our training to coach people to quickly understand their overall relationship situations and discover self-sabotage and other hidden resistance to success.

Relationship Quality & Communication Skills

You are always relating to people ... even your withdrawal or seclusion sends strong relationship signals. Although you may want to communicate with other people appropriately, other people may or may not respond to your communication in the way you wish. Our relationship coach training can accelerate your feelings of pleasure and well-being, and stabilize them in your relationships.

When you communicate, you spontaneously (usually unconsciously) express non-verbal signals that accompany your verbal statements. Your nonverbal signals provide valuable information about your verbal message. Your congruence carries meaningful information about your qualities and deficiencies. Noticing and responding to nonverbal signals and congruence is part of systemic coach training.

Systems 1: Training Outcomes

Systems 1 Coach Training is a foundation for helping people understand and manage many relationship difficulties. You can apply these skills at home, in education, therapy or business, and you can balance excellence at work with harmony at home as you learn to use systemic coaching skills to:

  1. Develop clear, mature relationships
  2. Remain flexible in times of crisis and change
  3. Develop focused action plans to fulfill well-defined goals
  4. Develop essential coaching and authentic leadership skills
  5. Improve your performance and satisfaction as you enhance your strengths


Systems 1: Coach Training

Each person is entangled in many relationship systems. Each relationship system has many goals, behaviors, transferences that are expressed by emotions. You can learn:

  1. What are human relationship systems?
  2. How to identify relationship dynamics
  3. How to evaluate family systems
  4. How to recognize common entanglements
  5. How to assess relationship problems
  6. How to clarify relationships
  7. How to predict relationship consequences

Coaching Family Systems

Each person represents many relationships systems - some may be recently formed and some may have existed for generations. Perhaps the most common human system, a family is a complex psycho-social-political entity. Even quiet families are busy places, full of interesting dynamics.

Systems 1 coach training includes many demonstrations and exercises investigating the relationship dynamics of participants. Participants will quickly learn to understand and apply systemic diagnosis and explore its many roles in relationship coaching.

Planning multiple coaching sessions

Some resistance to success cannot be managed in a single session. Some people are resourceful enough to continue dissolving resistance by themselves, once they know how to do this, while many people request further coaching sessions to achieve complex goals and to untangle relationship knots.

What Comes Next?

Systems 2 coach training explores how to coach people to choose complex goals, and includes how to plan their achievement into logical sequences of steps - with each step having intermediary goals. Systems 2 delves deeply into Goalwork (finding what people really want) and Objections (finding how people block their own success).

Systems 3 coach training explores how to coach people with stories and metaphors, and includes dream coaching - how to coach people who spontaneously enter sleepy, trance-like states. This course includes dreaming together - how to explore dreams from the inside - dreaming with people.

During our more advanced coach training - Systems coach training 4 to 10 - you can learn how to coach people to manage complex emotional and relationship issues such as emotional incest, identity loss, relationship bonds and therapist damage. See the table below ...

Do you want to change success and relationship issues, and understand what makes sense in life? Do you want to build success and healthy relationships?

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email