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Emotional Issues
Addictions
Anger & Rage
Anxiety
Dependence
Depression

Dissociation
Eating Problems
Emotional Maturity
Grief & Loss
Immaturity
Inner Child

Pain Control
Sadness
Stress Relief

Toxic Beliefs
Trauma & Stress
Weight Loss

 

Relationship Problems
Abuse
Affairs

Codependence
Dissolve Conflicts
Divorce
Emotional Blackmail

Enjoy Partnership
Evaluate Partners
Long-Distance Love
Love & Hate

Partnership
Past Partners
Premarital
Rejection
Sexual Issues
Soul Mates

 

Family Challenges
Abuse

Abortion
Adoption
Ancestors
Brothers & Sisters
Divorce & Children
Emotional Incest
Family Meetings
Family Secrets

Fathers & Daughters
Fathers & Sons
Learning Disorders
Mothers & Daughters
Mothers & Sons

Parental Alienation

 

Life Lessons
Authority
Bad Habits
Being Alone
Children's Challenges
Communication
Observing Feelings

Patterns in Love
Personal Growth
Quantum Leap
Self Esteem
Self Improvement
Self Intimacy
Stress & Relaxing
Therapist and Clients

 

Specialties
Chaos Coaching

Inner Conflict
Consciousness
Expert Modeling
Leadership
Learning Disorders
Mentorship

Psychobiology
Sexual Abuse
Soul of Soulwork
Systemic Management
Therapist Abuse
Training Abuse

 

 

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Resolve Emotional & Relationship Issues

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Therapy


Are you enmeshed in difficult relationships and unpleasant emotions?
Do you want to untangle your mind and your life?

Systemic Coaching Systemic Psychology Personal Development

Do you wait for suffering to motivate you? Do you wait for someone to tell you what to do?

Stop wasting time! We help people get the breakthroughs that they want - and that they deserve.

Especially for people who have tried therapy - and didn't get what they wanted.

Online Coaching

Do you want to do something truly worthwhile?

Help people solve emotional resistance and objections to happiness and success - and build a second income.

Especially for therapists, counselors, and other helping professionals

Coach Training

Do you want to improve your communication and relationship skills at home and at work?

We can help you increase your freedom from entanglements and relationship habits.

You can sort out many personal issues during class exercises.

Relationship Skills

Find a Coach who is Right for You

Success in almost every field requires solving relationship problems, conflict management, changing limiting beliefs and managing negative emotions. Each step of our coaching builds on previous success and prepares for the next goal.

Our coaching sequence is important when solving complex problems. Ineffective coaching or poorly focused therapy can waste your precious time and resources on trivial or irrelevant issues!

Do you wait for "suffering" to motivate you?

  1. Systemic Diagnosis - assess and predict relationship dynamics
  2. Relationship Clarification - untangle relationship entanglements
  3. Guilt Management - resolve your guilt and regain your sense of life
  4. Goal Diagnosis - predict steps to your success, and your needed resources
  5. Goal Coaching - define and plan your life goals, while incorporating objections
  6. Conflict Resolution - find life direction, manage conflicts and make decisions
  7. Identity Changework - manage identity loss and redefine your relationships
  8. Belief Changework - change limiting beliefs while protecting your relationships
  9. Trauma Resolution - change unresolved trauma and regain lost resources
  10. Expert Modeling - use expert strategies and duplicate expert performance
  11. Mentorship - disconnect from toxic mentors and find inspirational mentors

What are Systems?

Some general characteristics of systems are:

  1. Systems consist of definable elements
  2. Most systems are elements of larger systems
  3. Elements of a system can be perceived as sub-systems
  4. Systems have permeable boundaries to their environments
  5. Elements of a system interrelate or communicate with each other
  6. Complex systems include hierarchies of systems and subsystems
  7. Systems show dynamic behavior, often related to the goals of the system

Human systems are groups of people who influence each other. Human relationship dynamics go far beyond simple ideas of cause-and-effect. Often the effects seem to cause the causes.

Systems Thinking

We can know models of reality but not reality itself. Thinking in terms of simple cause-effect relationships might be called functional or linear - in contrast to thinking in terms of waves and loops. Interrelated systems have direct and indirect relationships. Feedback loops can be reinforcing (positive) or balancing (negative).

In systems thinking, distinctions between cause and effect can be paradoxical. We cannot identify a single cause for a systemic process, since effects may affect the cause. An understanding of feedback loops requires a dynamic perspective to observe how systemic behavior changes over time.

Overview of Systemic Coaching and Coach Training

We use systemic coaching to help people explore what they want, where they are now and how they can enjoy success. We coach people to achieve their goals, enjoy emotional freedom and/or build relationship happiness. We coach people to clean up their lives. Consider our logo as a simple symbol ...

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psychology, treatment, process, method, systemic psychotherapy, 
family psychotherapy, systemic solutions, conflict, addictions, family tree, 
alcholism, drug addiction, systemic methods, mental illness, mental disease,
emotional incest

Crisis & Maturity

People who wait for someone else to solve their problems may remain immature and dependent. You can coach people to enjoy clarifying and resolving each part of their lives! Helping people take responsibility for dealing with a crisis is often a first step of our systemic coaching.

Systemic Coach Training 1: Entanglements & Clarity

Regain peace and clarity. You can coach people to enjoy good relationships with parents, partners, ex-partners and children, instead of relationship confusion (e.g. reacting to a partner as if to a parent, or to a friend as if to a partner, which has unpleasant consequences.) Resolving entanglements can accelerate all parts of life.

Systemic Coach Training 2: Goals & Objections

As your entanglements diminish, your clarity increases and you can better focus on what you want. However, unconscious resistance will show up as objections to your goals. This phase of our work helps people become aware of and manage inner objections to a successful life.

Systemic Coach Training 3: Conflicts & Dreamwork

Many people spontaneously show trance-like signs during goalwork. However, our systemic work can continue using isomorphic and interactive metaphors. This leads towards finding integrity, the Soul of Soul Work, unless conflicts or identity loss prevent this experience of integrity and connectedness.

Systemic Coach Training 4: Trauma, Abuse & Motivation

You can coach people to manage resistance that result from trauma & abuse. Help people end any emotional chaos following crisis, abuse or traumatic experiences. You can coach people to transform negative emotions into motivation - from headwind to tailwind.

Systemic Coach Training 5: Relationship Bonds & Choice

Many people feel manipulated, yet do not protest because of they perceive it as normal. Bonds keep people in unhealthy relationships even when the consequences are unpleasant. Bonds include obsessions, emotions and limiting beliefs.

You can coach people to identify and change relationship bonds. You can coach people to increase their freedom and choice. People who manage toxic relationship bonds feel increasingly free.

Systemic Coach Training 6: Identity & Integrity

You can coach people to find the hidden benefits of conflicts, and to manage conflicts. After resolving conflicts, most people can better focus on their goals and plans. Deep conflicts may expose identity loss - identifications, identity conflict or a loss of self.

A common goal of our coaching is to experience integrity. You can coach people to access and stabilize this wonderful experience as a life-resource, while defining life direction (or mission or purpose). See Soul of Soulwork.

Systemic Coach Training 7: Mentors & Inspiration

You can help people evaluate their past and current role models and change mentor damage. With focus, integrity, supportive beliefs, motivation and inspirational mentorship - you can help people find and fulfill their goals - and their life purpose!

Individual coaching often leads to couple counseling, family coaching or team training. We coach partners, parents and team members to adapt to and appreciate changes, while helping them improve their partnership.

Systemic Coach Training 8: Systemic Couple Coaching

We can help you find solutions for your relationships - from friendship to dating to marriage; from making friends to creating communities. As you develop your relationship intelligence and maturity, you can change your relationship habits to better express, enjoy and receive love.

Contact us to resolve emotional and relationship problems.

Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1998-2017 All rights reserved


If you like our work, please link to us. If you know someone who might benefit,
please mention www.SystemicPsychology.com or www.EmotionsRelationships.com

For online help, email us at: europecoach@gmail.com

Soulwork systemic coaching in America & Hawaii

 

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2017 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email europecoach@gmail.com