Are you enmeshed in difficult relationships and unpleasant emotions?
Do you want to untangle your mind and your life?
Do you wait for suffering to motivate you?
Do you wait for someone to tell you what to do?
Stop wasting time! We help people get the
breakthroughs that they want - and that they deserve.
Especially for people who have tried
therapy - and didn't get what they wanted.
Do you want to do something truly
Help people solve emotional resistance and
objections to happiness and success - and build a second income.
therapists, counselors, and other helping professionals
Do you want to improve your communication and relationship
skills at home and at work?
We can help you increase your freedom from entanglements
and relationship habits.
You can sort out many personal issues during
Success in almost every field requires solving relationship problems,
conflict management, changing limiting beliefs and managing negative emotions.
Each step of our coaching builds on previous success and prepares for
the next goal.
Our coaching sequence is important when solving complex problems.
Ineffective coaching or poorly focused therapy can waste your precious
time and resources on trivial or irrelevant issues!
Do you wait for "suffering" to
- Systemic Diagnosis - assess and
predict relationship dynamics
- Relationship Clarification
- untangle relationship
- Guilt Management - resolve your
guilt and regain your sense of life
- Goal Diagnosis - predict steps to
your success, and your needed resources
- Goal Coaching - define and plan your
life goals, while
- Conflict Resolution - find
life direction, manage conflicts and make decisions
- Identity Changework - manage
and redefine your relationships
- Belief Changework - change
limiting beliefs while
protecting your relationships
- Trauma Resolution - change
and regain lost resources
- Expert Modeling - use expert strategies
and duplicate expert performance
- Mentorship - disconnect from
toxic mentors and
find inspirational mentors
What are Systems?
Some general characteristics of systems are:
- Systems consist of definable elements
- Most systems are elements of larger systems
- Elements of a system can be perceived as
- Systems have permeable boundaries to their environments
- Elements of a system interrelate or communicate with each other
- Complex systems include hierarchies of systems and subsystems
- Systems show dynamic behavior, often related to the goals of the system
Human systems are groups of people who influence each other. Human
relationship dynamics go far beyond simple ideas of cause-and-effect. Often the
effects seem to cause the causes.
We can know models of reality but not reality itself. Thinking in terms
of simple cause-effect relationships might be called functional or linear
- in contrast to thinking in terms of waves and loops. Interrelated
systems have direct and indirect relationships. Feedback loops can be
reinforcing (positive) or balancing (negative).
In systems thinking, distinctions between cause and effect can be
paradoxical. We cannot identify a single cause for a systemic process, since
effects may affect the cause. An understanding of feedback loops requires a
dynamic perspective to observe how systemic behavior changes over time.
Overview of Systemic Coaching and Coach Training
We use systemic coaching to help people explore
what they want, where they are now and how they can enjoy success.
We coach people to achieve their goals, enjoy emotional freedom
and/or build relationship happiness. We coach people to clean up
their lives. Consider our logo as a simple symbol ...
People who wait for someone else to solve
their problems may remain immature and dependent. You can coach people
to enjoy clarifying and resolving each part of their lives! Helping
people take responsibility for dealing with a crisis is often a
first step of our systemic coaching.
Regain peace and clarity. You can coach people
to enjoy good relationships with parents, partners, ex-partners
and children, instead of relationship confusion (e.g. reacting to
a partner as if to a parent, or to a friend as if to a partner,
which has unpleasant consequences.) Resolving
can accelerate all parts of life.
Systemic Coach Training 2: Goals & Objections
As your entanglements diminish, your clarity increases and you can better
focus on what you want. However, unconscious resistance will show up as
objections to your goals. This phase of our work helps
people become aware of and manage inner objections to a successful life.
Systemic Coach Training 3: Conflicts & Dreamwork
Many people spontaneously show trance-like signs during goalwork.
However, our systemic work can continue using isomorphic and interactive
metaphors. This leads towards finding integrity, the Soul of Soul Work,
unless conflicts or identity loss prevent this experience of integrity and
You can coach people to manage resistance that
result from trauma & abuse.
Help people end any emotional chaos following crisis, abuse or traumatic
experiences. You can coach people to transform negative emotions into
motivation - from headwind to tailwind.
Many people feel manipulated, yet do not protest because of
they perceive it as normal.
Bonds keep people
in unhealthy relationships even when the consequences are
unpleasant. Bonds include obsessions, emotions and
You can coach people to identify and change relationship bonds.
You can coach people to increase their freedom and choice. People
who manage toxic relationship bonds
feel increasingly free.
You can coach people to find the hidden benefits of conflicts, and to
manage conflicts. After resolving conflicts, most people can better focus on
their goals and
plans. Deep conflicts may expose identity loss -
identifications, identity conflict or a loss of self.
A common goal of our coaching is to experience integrity.
You can coach people to access and stabilize this
wonderful experience as a life-resource, while defining life direction
(or mission or purpose). See Soul
You can help people evaluate their past and
current role models and change mentor damage. With focus, integrity,
supportive beliefs, motivation and inspirational mentorship -
you can help people find and fulfill their goals - and their
Individual coaching often leads to couple counseling, family coaching or team
training. We coach partners, parents and team members to adapt to and appreciate
changes, while helping them improve their partnership.
Systemic Coach Training 8: Systemic
We can help you find solutions for your
relationships - from friendship to dating to marriage; from making friends
to creating communities. As you develop
your relationship intelligence and maturity, you can change your
relationship habits to better express, enjoy and receive love.
Contact us to resolve emotional and
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