We train people to add systemic coaching to their skills.
We mostly coach adults, (singles, couples, teams and families) to use a
broad spectrum of expertise.
Do you want to improve your life?
- What is Systems Thinking?
- What is Systemic Coaching?
- What problems can we solve?
- How does it work?
- What intervals between sessions?
- Use your initiative
1. What is Systems Thinking?
We are surrounded by ghosts of people from our
early families and other relationships. We are influenced by
them - we hold beliefs and prejudices from ancestors and people in our schools, cultures, national origin, religion,
Western medicine focuses on details of our bodies, and
generally ignore relationship influences. Yet you and I are part of
many relationship systems. We each represent our families, teams and
communities. Our relationships are not separable from our everyday lives.
You can look at people as an integral parts of
larger systems. There are no such things as minds separate from body systems, or
people separate from human systems. Feelings and emotions are body processes and
What's on your mind reflects both your body systems ... and
your human systems.
2. What is Systemic Psychology?
represents a fifth wave of psychology: relationship intelligence.
The first wave was the early work on the unconscious
mind, dominated by Mesmerism, animal magnetism and hypnosis. Your
problems were assumed to result from esoteric forces or wrong beliefs
that could be remedied by energy and suggestion.
The second wave followed Freud's replacement of hypnosis with psychoanalysis.
Difficulties with life were assumed to reflect unconscious conflicts from the
early family; and could be remedied with understanding the problem's origin.
The third wave was a reaction against Freudian
thinking. Behavioral psychology proposed that human behavior is a result
of conditioning. By rewarding you for certain behaviors, and punishing
you for others, your behavior can be programmed.
The fourth wave was humanistic psychology; a backlash
against hard science. For example, Carl Rogers'
client-centered therapy maintains that a good relationship with a
therapist can help people.
Systemic psychology crests a fifth wave that includes
expert modeling, marriage
counseling and family therapy. Systemic coaching helps people
heal relationships - and all the difficulties that relationships can
3. What problems can systemic coaching solve?
Systemic coaching offers an interactive
approach. We discuss your concerns, complaints and goals, while asking
you questions. We look at how you got into whatever mess you
are in, what you can do to solve it and how to prevent a similar mess in
Systemic coaching is useful for:
- Relationship difficulties
- Trauma, bereavement and loss
- Violence and abuse
- Anxiety, fear & phobia
- Obsessions and compulsions
- Chronic pain or illness
- Emotional incest, separation and divorce
- Post-abortion coaching
- Managing stress, depression and melancholy
- Team problems: harassment and
- Identity issues (identity loss, identification & identity
4. How do we work?
Individual, couple and
family coaching costs about $93 US / hour or 80 Euro/hour.
During the first session we decide whether we both want to continue;
for you to experience our work and for me to see if and how I can help
The time will vary with the complexity of your problems or goals and your
motivation. Most sessions
are for one to two hours. Longer sessions for visiting out-of-town people can be
Sessions can be cancelled at any time. If you cancel less than
24 hours before a session, or do not arrive, you pay a 50% cancellation fee
before we continue.
5. What intervals between sessions?
For some people it is not helpful or necessary to meet weekly,
whereas others may request it. We discuss this during the first session and
review it later. The intervals can be a week or two, or longer.
Your commitment does not extend beyond the current
session. If we agree to a series of
sessions, we can create a coaching plan.
Our sessions and discussions are confidential unless
otherwise agreed (for example many people enjoy free sessions as demonstration
subjects on coach trainings). Only if we believe that a child's
safety or a human life are at risk would we contact a third party.
We can help you resolve emotional and
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