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We train people like you to become systemic coaches. We
coach people of all ages, from children and
teenagers, to adults, singles, couples, teams and families. We provide a
broad spectrum of expertise, in relationship coaching and systemic
coach training. Why not join us?
Do you want help with relationship problems?
- What is Systems Thinking?
- What is Systemic Coaching?
- What problems can we solve?
- How does it work?
- What intervals between sessions?
- Confidentiality
- Use your initiative
1. What is Systems Thinking?
If I talk to you, there are more than two people
present. We are surrounded by ghosts. Both of us are influenced by people in our
early families and other relationships. Both of us are influenced by
beliefs and prejudices from people in our schools, cultures, national origin, religion,
etc.
Western medicine focuses on details of our bodies, and
generally ignore these relationship influences. Yet you and I are part of
many relationship systems. We each represent our families, teams and
communities. Our relationships are not separable from our everyday lives.
Systems Thinking looks at people as an integral parts of
larger systems. There is no such thing as minds separate from body systems, or
people separate from human systems. Feelings and emotions are body processes.
What's in your mind reflects your body systems ... and
your human systems.
2. What is Systemic Coaching?
Systemic coaching may represent a fifth wave of
psychology: relationship intelligence.
The first wave was the early work on the unconscious
mind, dominated by Mesmerism, animal magnetism and hypnosis. Your
problems were assumed to result from esoteric forces or wrong beliefs
that could be remedied by energy and suggestion.
The second wave followed Freud's replacement of
hypnosis with psychoanalysis. Difficulties with life were assumed to
reflect unconscious conflicts in your early family; and could be
remedied with understanding the problem's origin.
The third wave was a reaction against Freudian
thinking. Behavioral psychology proposed that human behavior is a result
of conditioning. By rewarding you for certain behaviors, and punishing
you for others, your behavior can be programmed.
The fourth wave was humanistic psychology; a backlash
against hard science. For example, Carl Rogers'
client-centered therapy maintains that a good relationship with a
therapist can help people.
Systemic coaching crests a fifth wave that includes
expert modeling, marriage counseling and family therapy. Systemic coaching helps people
heal relationships.
3. What problems can systemic coaching solve?
We are systemic coaches and we use an interactive
approach. We discuss your concerns, complaints and goals, while asking
you questions. We look at how you got into whatever mess you
are in, what you can do to solve it and how to prevent a similar mess in
the future.
Systemic coaching is useful for:
- Relationship difficulties
- Trauma, bereavement and loss
- Violence and abuse
- Anxiety, fear & phobia
- Obsessions and compulsions
- Chronic pain or illness
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- Emotional incest, separation and divorce
- Post-abortion coaching
- Managing stress, depression and melancholy
- Team problems: harassment and
confidence
- Identity issues (identity loss, identification & identity
conflict)
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4. How do we work?
Individual, couple and
family coaching costs about 80 Euro/hour and team coaching is by negotiation.
During the first sessions we decide whether we both want to continue;
for you to see what it's like seeing me and for me to see how I can help
you.
Most people find about 6-12 two-hour sessions useful,
but this can vary with the complexity of your problems or goals. Most sessions
are for one to two hours. Longer sessions for out-of-town people can be
arranged.
Sessions can be cancelled at any time. If you
cancel less than 24 hours before a session, or do not arrive, you pay a 50% cancellation fee before we continue
again.
5. What intervals between sessions?
For some people it is not helpful or necessary to meet weekly,
whereas others may request it. We discuss this during the first session and
review it later. The intervals can be a week or two, or longer.
Your commitment does not extend beyond the current
session. However, if we agree to a series of
sessions, we can create a coaching plan.
6. Confidentiality
Our sessions and discussions are confidential unless
otherwise agreed (for example many people enjoy free sessions as demonstration
subjects on coach trainings). Only if we believe that a child's
safety or a human life are at risk would we contact a third party.
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