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Systemic Coaching & Coach Training

Jan Sikorski

We train people to add systemic coaching to their skills. We mostly coach adults, (singles, couples, teams and families) to use a broad spectrum of expertise.

Do you want to improve your life?

  1. What is Systems Thinking?
  2. What is Systemic Coaching?
  3. What problems can we solve?
  4. How does it work?
  5. What intervals between sessions?
  6. Confidentiality
  7. Use your initiative

1. What is Systems Thinking?

We are surrounded by ghosts of people from our early families and other relationships. We are influenced by them - we hold beliefs and prejudices from ancestors and people in our schools, cultures, national origin, religion, etc.

Western medicine focuses on details of our bodies, and generally ignore relationship influences. Yet you and I are part of many relationship systems. We each represent our families, teams and communities. Our relationships are not separable from our everyday lives.

You can look at people as an integral parts of larger systems. There are no such things as minds separate from body systems, or people separate from human systems. Feelings and emotions are body processes and human processes. What's on your mind reflects both your body systems ... and your human systems.

2. What is Systemic Psychology?

Systemic psychology represents a fifth wave of psychology: relationship intelligence.

The first wave was the early work on the unconscious mind, dominated by Mesmerism, animal magnetism and hypnosis. Your problems were assumed to result from esoteric forces or wrong beliefs that could be remedied by energy and suggestion.

The second wave followed Freud's replacement of hypnosis with psychoanalysis. Difficulties with life were assumed to reflect unconscious conflicts from the early family; and could be remedied with understanding the problem's origin.

The third wave was a reaction against Freudian thinking. Behavioral psychology proposed that human behavior is a result of conditioning. By rewarding you for certain behaviors, and punishing you for others, your behavior can be programmed.

The fourth wave was humanistic psychology; a backlash against hard science. For example, Carl Rogers' client-centered therapy maintains that a good relationship with a therapist can help people.

Systemic psychology crests a fifth wave that includes expert modeling, marriage counseling and family therapy. Systemic coaching helps people heal relationships - and all the difficulties that relationships can manifest.

3. What problems can systemic coaching solve?

Systemic coaching offers an interactive approach. We discuss your concerns, complaints and goals, while asking you questions. We look at how you got into whatever mess you are in, what you can do to solve it and how to prevent a similar mess in the future.

Systemic coaching is useful for:

  • Relationship difficulties
  • Trauma, bereavement and loss
  • Violence and abuse
  • Anxiety, fear & phobia
  • Obsessions and compulsions
  • Chronic pain or illness
  • Emotional incest, separation and divorce
  • Post-abortion coaching
  • Managing stress, depression and melancholy
  • Team problems: harassment and confidence
  • Identity issues (identity loss, identification & identity conflict)

4. How do we work?

Individual, couple and family coaching costs about $93 US / hour or 80 Euro/hour. During the first session we decide whether we both want to continue; for you to experience our work and for me to see if and how I can help you.

The time will vary with the complexity of your problems or goals and your motivation. Most sessions are for one to two hours. Longer sessions for visiting out-of-town people can be arranged.

Sessions can be cancelled at any time. If you cancel less than 24 hours before a session, or do not arrive, you pay a 50% cancellation fee before we continue.

5. What intervals between sessions?

For some people it is not helpful or necessary to meet weekly, whereas others may request it. We discuss this during the first session and review it later. The intervals can be a week or two, or longer.

Your commitment does not extend beyond the current session. If we agree to a series of sessions, we can create a coaching plan.

6. Confidentiality

Our sessions and discussions are confidential unless otherwise agreed (for example many people enjoy free sessions as demonstration subjects on coach trainings). Only if we believe that a child's safety or a human life are at risk would we contact a third party.

We can help you resolve emotional and relationship problems.

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I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email