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Welcome to Soul Work Systemic Coaching

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Welcome, it looks like we may invest some time and energy together - to focus on your goals, your development and on creating the life that you want.

We will commit to accompanying and supporting you as you define, change,
achieve and perhaps surpass your goals.
This can include your material and financial goals, your beliefs and values,
your relationships and your life purpose.

Please read this and confirm your agreement and we can start.

Here are some of our policies; and if you have any questions, we can discuss them. We can better focus on you getting what you want once these details are behind us.

  1. Commitment: we ask that you commit to a minimum of five sessions. (If you want to pay for one session at a time, that's fine - first make a commitment).
  2. Skype is a useful way to communicate, and my Skype name is kahekili.
  3. Confidentiality: I will not tell anyone that you are my client and I will not reveal the content of our meetings to anyone without your approval. You, however, are free to share whatever you choose with whomever you choose.
  4. Time: We will commit to beginning and endings our meetings on time, unless we both agree at the beginning of a session for a longer time period. I am most often teaching in Europe (GMT+1)
  5. Scheduling: Sooner or later, one of us will need to change the time or date of a session. Please give me twenty-four hours notice to reschedule your appointment, and I will work with you to reschedule within the same week. If something comes up for me, I will give you as much advance notice as possible.
  6. Emergencies: If you have a crisis and you cannot contact me, we can try to work around it - once. Other sessions are paid sessions. I honor our relationship by setting aside time for you. If we have a session scheduled, and something comes up for me, I will let you know in advance so you can call me on my mobile phone.
  7. Payments: The fees for our sessions are currently $95 US / hour or $395 for five sessions. These are normally paid using PayPal (bank transfer fees can be shocking).
  8. E-mail is useful for quick questions and homework, although I avoid writing long emails as they take huge amounts of time. If you need to talk to me by Skype or telephone, please email me first.
  9. We cannot help everybody ... please seek other assistance if:

    * You are under 18
    * You want free sessions
    * You cannot cope with change
    * You may harm  yourself or others
    * You cannot cope with your daily tasks
    * You need treatment for psychiatric disorders
    * You want advice about medical conditions or medications

Committing to five sessions allows us opportunities to work through more problems, and after that, we can continue as you wish. When you decide it is time to end our sessions and fly solo, please give me two weeks notice.

You can accept, decline, or challenge any request I may make. If I say something that doesn’t feel right, please tell me. If a request or homework seems strange to you, please tell me and we'll talk about it.

I won't tell you what to do ... I value you more than that. We can walk together as far as you want. Maybe out of the jungle or maybe to the next town - maybe further.

I will challenge you to look beyond your “comfort zone” into unfamiliar areas of your life. I will provoke you to realize who you can be to live the life you desire. If you have any questions regarding the above information, please email me, otherwise I assume that you understand and agree to all these terms.

The first session or two usually focused on defining your important goals and what stops you or slows you down. Many people need this orientation to their life-goals with an idea of what to change and what resources they need for each step. Changing trauma, obsessions and habits etc are just "steps" in this larger picture.

The finest resource is that you can enjoy an ongoing stable life-resource (that I call integrity or Soul) - a resource that need not fade over time (like motivation). You can access this by sorting out relationship confusion, trauma, limiting beliefs etc.

(Stable life-resources are outside most people's perceptions of what is possible, although some people expect such resources after they die ...)

We usually follow this format



1. Where are you now? Assess your relationships
(including fixations, bonds and enmeshments)
2. What do you want? Explore your life goals ...
and your resistance to your chosen success
3. How can you get there? Find your lost or hidden resources
4. Which emotions block you? End relationship trauma and mentor damage
5. Do your beliefs limit you? Change your limiting beliefs
and end dependence
6. Do you sometimes feel empty? Resolve identity loss and
recover your lost resources
7. Do you enjoy healthy partnership? Build a healthy partnership
(or separate peacefully)
8. Are your children happy?

Be happy parents and
better manage family problems

To get a better picture of where you are now, where you want to be and how to get there - please consider these questions:

  1. If you could make your life perfect, what would you change?
  2. How would you like me to bring more value to your sessions?
  3. What could stop you in getting top value out of our work together?
  4. What are your biggest challenges, issues, or concerns you are facing now?

If you want to solve emotional problems and relationship problems;
if you want success and healthy relationships ... you're in the right place.

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Here are a few tips.

  1. Remember what you want to change in your life.
  2. Write down what is important and choose important goals.
  3. Prepare for our meetings as you would for anything worthwhile.
  4. We cannot give you the answers - we can help you find your answers.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 2004-2018  All rights reserved

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email